My best friend has cancer, what can I do?

Question

My friend is 28 years old and she's been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She has a daughter of 6 yrs. old and an inconsiderate family. She's depressed and is slowly giving up. What can I don't to help her? I try to cheer her up and tell her to keep on fighting for her daughter, but she tells me I don't understand because I'm healthy, be that as it may, I love her very much and I worry for her and her daughter because she's all that baby girl has got in this world. I wish she could meet someone who's has gotten through this, because I know there are people out there who are going through the same or have survived. Someone please help.

I want to thank you all for your thoughts and prayers, god bless.

Answer 1

Good friends like you are hard to come by and im sure she is greatful to have a friend like you their for her. Tell her to keep her head up. Keep encouraging her and telling her its ok. They have support groups for people with cancer and cancer survivers. It might help her to go to a few and hear other peoples stories. God is not going to put any more on you then you can handle and she needs to know that. She will get threw it. Be their for her and her daughter. Talk to her daughter tell her daughter to give mommy a few extra hugs, kisses and i love yous. Every little bit helps make a day easier. Bad things happen to good people but its the good in their heart that helps them fight and get through the stuggle.

Answer 2

She is angry and depressed. Her body has betrayed her. She may feel like God has also betrayed her. That is why she says that about you not understanding because you're healthy. Keep doing what your doing. Be there for her. It sounds as if you and her daughter are all the support she has. Don't let her bad days keep you away. Sometime sick people subconsciously try to make the people that love them angry or drive them away. Don't take it personally. But do urge her to speak to a counselor that specializes in cancer patients or to join a cancer support group so she can talk to people that are going through it. She may feel they can understand.. If she is able, help her to do things with her daughter like go to a park, or even out to a fun restaurant. Help her maintain some of the normalcy of her life. Help her get her errands done, household chores, whatever it takes. While it does depend on how advanced she was before it was detected, cancer is becoming more and more survivable every day, but I believe you also have to have the attitude that you can beat it. A depressed person doesn't fight off illness very good. Best wishes. I'll have you guys in my prayers.

Answer 3

What works, works. The Indians in Canada have a mixture of four herbs. It is brewed to make a tea. You may find it in a health food store as Essiac Tea. If you go to www.herbalhealer.com you can buy the bulk herbs and brew her 4H tea "fresh" for her.
Plus there are other natural remedies. ***Remember oh skeptics, about 86-98 % of our patent medicines (drugs) come from herbal extracts ! IF there is an ailment God gave us the cure -- in plants & herbs, sun... Hmmm, that brings up photoluminescence. Doctors in Europe do it a lot, here only a little. They draw out some of your blood. It is irradiated by the Sun. They inject it back in to you. It cures blood ailments, some cancers, and they do not know how the solar radiation does it. Used to be called Heliopathy treatments.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry! There are tons of support groups for ovarian cancer and female cancers! Contact the American Cancer Society for local groups, it will help! There are also online support groups! Type in Yahoo Chat Groups and you'll be able to find an appropriate one. I hope she is going to the best Drs. in the country like the Mayo Clinic and such! Yes, there are tons of people who have survived and like I said, The American Cancer Society should put in you touch! Also, check with your local hospitals for support groups for young people with cancer! When she gets better, maybe she can help council other young people with cancer! It is hard not to be depressed and you must understand this! There are also support groups for you as well to help deal with this obstacle in life! That's awful her family is inconsiderate, you should try talking to them with a professional that can let them know how much she needs their support! I wish her the best of luck and I know she can beat it!

Answer 5

Very nice of you to look out for your friend. My mother was just diagnosed herself, so I know the worry and concern that you are dealing with. For my mother, laughter is very helpful!!! So keep her laughing if you can. And let her be sad sometimes too.Also, most local hospitals have free cancer support groups, that meet once a month! That would be a great place for you to take her, where there is alot of other folks in her same situation. I am close to my mother, and we see people going in for treatmnet all alone, and it breaks my heart. ALl my best to you and your friend. Thank goodness she has you!!

Answer 6

sorry to hear that but at her doctors office they may be wiling to share information like patient names that are coming to be seen for their cancer and they can form some type of support group that she can relate to other people with the sickness she have and in turn will make her have the drive to fight for her life and the love of her daughter and you will pull her though it she can live and fight the cancer

Answer 7

just pray for her and do anything you can to help with the family. this is a time where they need somebody to help and comfort them.

Answer 8

You need to give her lots of encouragement.