She is a really good friend of mine, and i met her about 5 years ago. I have always liked her as more than a friend, but i'm pretty shy and my self esteem would die if something went wrong. I would love to go out with her, problem is, we are good friends and i don't want to ruin that. Is there anything i can do or am i just left here to admire from the side lines.v_v?
2007-01-07 16:33:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will give you the same advice I've given other people in the past. Let things progress naturally. If there are romantic possibilities with this girl, you will know it. If not than you may just need to start looking for someone with whom you do share a connection. Sucky but that's the difference between a relationship that works out and one that doesn't.
2007-01-07 16:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was attracted to you, you would already be dating her. Girls will let you know when they are attracted to you.
There are things you can do "move on". Ok im notsaying write her off completely as a possible relationship, but for now you need to write her off as a possible relationship.
Ok, now what you will do is date other girls, this is not to make her jealous, or any grade school antics like that. You need to develop yourself socially, get over your shyness and become the kind of man women are attracted to.
From now on you will say hello to everyone you meet...at the grocery store, passing by some one at work at the mall, ect, you will say hello to everyone, and also begin making conversation with all those people who are in your presenece for more then 45 seconds.
The idea here is practice makes perfect, and the more you put yourself in social situation the more you will develop your skills and move away from being shy. Girls don't like shy guys, they may or may not likethe strong silent type, bu tnot "shy".
Anyways, from here you will begin to notice some of the female you speak with will show interest, more laughter, toouching, ect. See these girls again, "date" what ever, you will begin to learn how to attract women and make people feel good about themselves. From there if you are still friends with this girl and she already hasn't let you know thatshe is attracted to her, then you might think about making a move, and developing your relationship with her into something more, untill then.
2007-01-07 16:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God!!!!
IM IN YOUR SHOES EXCEPT ITS THE GIRL WHO LIKES THE GUY HERE
Ive liked him for four-five years. Weve been good friends but we havent talked in five months.
Im pretty shy too-thats a downer.
What I like in this guy, I have no idea. Hes immature sometimes but I just do...like him.
Listen, she probably feels the same way. I mean, good friends for five years, huh? Shes probably considered how shes felt about you...
I would make a move. Dont do it through email and you dont have to do it in front of her.
Call her-she would love to hear from you!!!
And tell her as honestly as you can.
Hope for the best but expect the worst.
If she doesnt feel the same way she will still like you as a friend, just dont make it awkward.
No matter what you will always have memories, and I believe that someday people get to see each other on the terms they want to be, as long as they take risks.
Go for it and good luck!!!!
2007-01-07 16:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop torturing yourself! If you really value her friendship you may not want to ruin it by dating her. If you date and then break up you may lose a great friend. What have her past relationships been like? If she only has short term relationships chances are your relationship with her would be short too -- and you'd lose a friend just to date her. Also, the fact that she hasn't show interest in you for 5 years, speaks volumes. I'd suggest you keep things on a frienship level only.
2007-01-07 16:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by ca belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love this quote, and live by it too... i hope it helps! "only when things go wrong do we look at them the way we should have in the beginning. and then we still dont look at it completely.
but when you feel something, and you have to choose whether or not to act on it, you have to ask yourself-- Would you rather always wonder or always know?"
2007-01-07 16:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by danuh_bananuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either muster up the guts to approach her or continue wacking off while thinking about her
2007-01-07 16:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a flip of the coin situation, if you seriously wanna be w/ her but if for some reason things don't work out your friendship will never be the same again.
2007-01-07 16:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sense u guys are good freinds she might go out with u but dont be worried if she says no becuse u and her will still be freinds
2007-01-07 16:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by EpIc KhAoSx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have had five years to make a move!
at this rate you're going to be a proud 98 year old father of a kindergartener....
how terribly gross!
2007-01-07 16:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out it sounds like the best thing! Good Luck!
2007-01-07 16:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by Selena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋