2007-01-07 16:30:17 · 20 answers · asked by debbie2243 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If my sister got divorced and she was staying with me I wouldn't charge her at first...I'd wait until the divorce was final...unless it took longer than 6 or 8 months then I would talk to her. I'd sit down with her and I'd ask her how much money she makes, how much alimony she's getting, if any, and how much her bills are then I'd give her an amount for her to pay. The time I would let her stay with me for free would also depend on how the divorce is going too...like if it's nasty or if it's just a clean break. I would just sit down and talk to her...she is your sister so she will always love you...and, at least with my sister, if she's coming to you she has no where else to go. So just talk to her, see what her plans are, see what she can afford. If she can't afford to pay rent, sit down with her and make an agreement that to pay for her rent she can make dinner 3 times a week, or do the dishes or clean the house or buy the groceries or pay the utilities or gas or something like that...then that way you don't feel like you're just giving her a free ride and she's having to help out. but like I said just talk to her to see what works for you and her.
2007-01-07 19:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on how long she is gonna stay and what her job pays. If she isn't gonna stay for that long, like 1-2 weeks, I wouldn't charge her. If it was for a month, and her job didn't pay as much, only aske her to help out with food. If it's longer than a month, I would charge her rent and ask her to help out with the food.
2007-01-08 01:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by pitsloth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would have to depend on her financial and your financial status. If you think that you can handle the finances yourself and give her time to save money for her to get back on her feet on her own, then I would not charge her, but then again on the other hand ,if you feel that you have given her enough time to save the money and she just keeps on staying for free, start charging!!!
Right now she needs you emotionally!! Divorce is not a good thing, especially depending on how bad of a divorce it was!! Just try your best to help her out in every way you can, but if it gets to the point where it is starting to be a financial issue for you and your family(if you have one). Then just at first tell her that your going to have to have her start helping out with the bills and things...... You are a sweet person to take her in....Me and my sister , as much as i adore her, could NEVER live together...LOL
Good luck to you and her. and I hope everything turns out okay with no hard feeling on either side...Good Luck to both of you!!
2007-01-08 00:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by littleEfan25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , that's your sis and she just went thru a divorce . Plus you said she only wants to stay for a lil while . Now if she continued to stay on after she got back on her feet say hey if your gonna keep living here then we can split the rent and everything to help one another out. Be nice to her going thru a divorce is hard she is gonna need all the help she can get financial and emotional.
2007-01-08 01:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by " Dixieland Delight " 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have kids? Does she clean up the house and herself?
Does anyone in your family do this? i.e. what is the norm in your family. How much does she eat? Does she bring home groceries? To me it would matter whether she was a help to me and acted like she wanted to be a partner in making things run smoothly. Or would she be lazy, complaining and bringing you down, whining and laying around? Would you have to tell her to buy some food or clean? Depends on what kind of sister she is.
Helpful and honest or is she a User and a Loser? How Much? Half!! Good Luck!! @8=)
2007-01-08 00:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i could possiably go without for a month or two i would. She has enough stress on her if she is going through a divorce. Right now what she needs is to no that you are there for her. Your her sister and should be willing to do anything for her without a pricetag..I wouldn't however let her live off of me for long though. Once she is starting to heal i would then ask her to help out.. Good luck
2007-01-08 00:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sherman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't charge a best friend or a sibling rent after something like that. As long as it's only for a little while unil they get back on their feet and find a place of their own.
2007-01-08 00:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by tooqerq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Debbie,
Me and my sisters are very close. If she had very little cash and needed every extra bit to get on her feet........no I would not charge her rent. If my sister had plenty of money and was able to pay I would ask her what she thinks is fair. According to how many people she had coming and how many I already had.
2007-01-08 00:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on how long.
a couple weeks or a month or two, no
after that, the going rate for your area, check the paper for similar area, room size etc. X$ per month +X$ for utilities. Around here its about $200 to $500 +1/3utilities. in new york it could be $700 to $2500, it really depends on where you live.
Make this very clear up front.
2007-01-08 00:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by hogie0101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. At least enough rent to pay for the extra costs.
Like, your food bill is going up. So are your lights and your water bills.
I'd also have an agreement about who does which chores.
2007-01-08 00:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋