I am always worried about what others think about me .....to the point that it interferes with my life a lot......I avoid being around people at all costs.....I dont have hardly any self confidence except in my weight and on that I about have an eating disorder....how can i learn that what other people think does not matter?
2007-01-07 16:26:53 · 15 answers · asked by Chelsea R 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You cannot possibly know what others are thinking. Why trouble yourself with that which is impossible?
2007-01-07 16:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by isee1111 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Self esteem issues are more common than you probably think. It can be caused by a number of things...something from our childhoods, an abusive relationship etc....as some experience more in life some start to loose the fear of what others think...and some continue to struggle. Depending on where you sit in life at the moment...maybe you should consider seeking someone professional to talk to or take classes on building self confidence...or perhaps taking some real "me" time to discover who you really are.
Keep in mind people who may judge you are basically suffering something similar to yourself and people who put others down or act cocky are very insecure. Don't confuse confidence with being cocky. Humble people are usually the confident ones...and are the least judgemental.
All the best!
2007-01-08 00:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by busy_mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds a little more serious than just worrying about what people think. You should think about therapy both for your social anxiety and your weight issues. In a lot of cases, a combination of therapy and medication can really help.
In the meantime, there is a quote that I read a long time ago that helped me. Maybe it will help you, too. I don't know the author, I wish I did, but it goes something like this:
I knew I was mature when I could walk into a room and wonder, "What do _I_ think of these people?" and not "What do _they_ think of me?"
2007-01-08 00:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by MsNobody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me. Social anxiety disorder is a chemical imbalance that makes you feel like you are being judged, ridiculed etc, It causes you to avoid social situations etc like you are doing. They can give you meds but try positive thinking and always remember that you judge yourself much more harshly than anyone else does. Go easy on yourself. It will get better.
2007-01-08 00:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time to undo beliefs in our leaders and peers. The peers have the most power over us emotionally so start there. You need to accept that you are an outcast and begin to relearn life. Our self-confidence grows when we see others better.
2007-01-08 01:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are to a point where you need to seek professional help. make an appointment with your family doctor or a psychiatrist. They may be able to counsel you or prescribe you some anxiety/anti depressants that will help you cope with day to day life without caring so much. trust me, anti depressants REALLY REALLY help you to go through daily life without a care in the world. i have been on lexapro, prozac, paxil, ativan, buspar (buspirone) and for the most part they were all great....prefer lexapro though. paxil caused me to have severe breakouts. at one point in my life i was so bad about anxiety that i couldn't even leave the house without having a panic attack.i always felt like people were watching and judging or that i was being followed, lied to, etc. it was bad. plus i was extremely self conscious even though people always told me how pretty i am. i drove myself to the ER because i thought i was dying and it was just an anxiety attack. lol
2007-01-08 00:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this is the saying that i live by.
"If they can't accept you for who you are, they aren't worth knowing. "
don't change yourself for other people. be yourself and if the people around you can't deal with that then it is their problem not yours.
if you were smart you would print out my saying and stick it on your ceiling so that every night before you go to sleep and when you wake up, you are reminded that you are you. just being yourself and not caring what others think gives you power.
and what can thoughts do anyway? they aren't arrows. words can be arrows but if you don't care about them you have a shield around you.
just accept that they might have opinions about you but also know that you have opinions about them too. and if you think theirs are harmful, think of your own harmful things. but just don't say anything about some one you wouldn't say to their face.
good luck!
and remember:
if they can't accept you for who you are, they aren't worth knowing.
2007-01-08 00:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look around the planet , you will find LOTS of idiots . . . but there are also good people .
Learn to seek out the good and respect what they say .
Once you learn to value 'quality' , you will be able to ignore the 'quantity' . . . of morons.
2007-01-08 00:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some articles I like about the issiue
http://everydaywonderland.com/articles/what-do-you-care-what-other-people-think (long read but really worth it)
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2005/11/what-will-other-people-think-of-you/
http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=480476
2007-01-08 00:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by nihil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will learn what other people think does not count when you find something that catches your attention and you do not care what others think of you as you do it or see it, this is what happened to me
2007-01-08 00:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋