i dont understand... theres this guy who idk if he likes me or not because he just changes so fast. i like him but not like "like like" cause im in love with someone else. we talked for a long time about going out and we decided we were gunna go on a first date this weekend well hell just be sitting there talking to me all normallyh and then suddenly hes getting mad at me and calling me a ***** then the next minute hes telling me im still his baby...
I DONT UNDERSTAND...
am i doing something wrong ?
maybe its just me
what is wrong with me ??
2007-01-07 16:22:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is NOTHING wrong with you! He sounds bipolar to me. I think you should distance yourself from this guy. IHe gets angry at you and then switches back so suddenly. This guy could be showing warning signs of an abusive personality. Be careful what you say around him. He could be a very dangerous perso if he gets really upset.
2007-01-07 16:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by Katie B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this seems to be a situation in which you have done nothing wrong nor have you in some way caused this.
i suggest you do not date this person again and do not allow yourself to be alone with this person at any time.
While it is remotely possible that this person was having a very bad day it is much more likely this behavior indicates the person is not able to control his behavior.
Bassed on what you have written i am thinking your of school age. I suggest that you mention this date/event to the guidance consellor or principal.
If you are not in school then a private discussion with his parents by way of phone informing them what happened and doing so in a polite manner that is straight forward .Include only the facts not any sort of projection of future conserns.
I would make it clear to them that you do not wish to have contact with there son in any manner and that there support in this matter should be full as you wish to help but you do not have the knowledge or ability to help there son.
I would then ask them if they would prefer to inform there son that you do not wish to have contact with him or if you should do that.
I strongly urge you to tell your parents about this and that you make a written detailed letter about this for your own keeping.
I am sorry that you crossed paths with this boy. I am sure you are right to ask about this matter and i hope you do all i have suggested for your safety and his benifit.
While i dont suggest you tell your friends about this if you were to see a girl that is considering dating him i would for now and the near future let that girl know you dont think it is all together safe to date that boy .
I would then leave the matter and go on with having much more
injoyable dates from here on out.
2007-01-07 16:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused. Why are you so concerned with this guys feelings when you have confessed to being in love with someone else? Why are you spending time with this guy instead of the guy you proclaim to be in love with? Sounds to me like you aren't sure of what or who it is you really want. If you were truly in love with this other guy, you would not be with this loser who keeps abusing you emotionally. Wake up and get a clue before your life takes an unexpected turn into a huge ditch.
2007-01-07 16:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Darlene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sign of an abusive person. Stay clear. It is nothing you are doing or not doing. There are some people that love to be abusive and then calling you baby is the way to keep you there. It is nothing wrong with you. If you stay it could get physically violent.
2007-01-07 16:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by DONNA M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anything wrong. He sounds extremely unstable and possibly violent.
This guy has some mental issues. He is not treating you right, so I don't think you should have any contact with him anymore. You said you are in love with someone else, so why waste your time with this weirdo? You have better things to do, anyways.
2007-01-07 16:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mya23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal opinion I dont think he really likes you I think hes playin with your mind
because in my personal experience in my class I have this guy who gets mad at me so easily.. and one time he got mad at me for 2 weeks.. and then..( since Im not too close with him I didnt even notice lol) then he after the 2 weeks was up he would come back and be like iM sorry for being an *** I was just mad at u.. but he would only talk to me in class... anywhere else.. he would just pretend like I dont exist..he also told me he likes me n is attracted to me and lead on me on... meanwhile I found out he lead 5 other girls on... and... was planning to date someone.. which didnt mind me other then the fact he lied to me and I couldnt tell he honestly liked me and then found out that he was leadin me on which seems like ur situation
2007-01-07 16:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it truly is often suggested that the perfect revenge is residing nicely. This female tried to tear your heart out, and also you already know what you'll do? you'll keep on, like it would not even count number. Be civil to her, act cool, do not merely thoroughly ignore about her in case you spot her. Act like not something afflicted you, and also you're extremely pleased with your existence today. because you're extra effective than her. She has to hotel to hooking up along with your human beings to attempt to break you. you're literally unlikely to waste all that element merely to carry extra hate into the global. you'd be the further effective human being, and bypass on along with your existence. you'll experience extra effective, happier, and with slightly of success this is going to nevertheless make her experience like ****. :)
2016-12-01 23:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by korniyenko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mixed messages can drive anyone crazy, sorry. I think thats just messed up for a guy to say something one minute and the next something different or change the next day. Be real is he really worth it?
2007-01-07 16:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Directly you are not doing anything wrong. But when you are in love with someone else, you better not get involved with others because you are true at heart but others you involve with may start to Love you which is wrong. You are indirectly responsible for playing with his feelings.
2007-01-07 16:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by iampiyushpatel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is VERY insecure. To make him feel better about HIMSELF he treats you badly. Thai has got to stop. As long as you keep up with his stuff he will continue to do so. It's up to you to demand respect. Don't accept his apology to readily next time and see what he does.
He needs to quit and it's up to you tom STOP him or just find another guy! IN fact that may be best thing to do!
2007-01-07 16:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋