I'm so sad!?

Question

I broke up with my first bf 3 months ago. I broke up with him, cause i didn't want the relationship to affect my studies. he said that he will wait for me. At that time, i think he still like me. Things go smooth after the broke up. We still keep in touch ang hoping to going steady again after my graduation of high school. On Christmas day, i went to his house to celebrated this ocassion with him and his friends. He said that he'll die for me, if i didn't go to accompany him in the last Christmas. I'm happy when i heard that, but a little worried about him.Cause, that's mean he care for me. We really have a great time that night.But, things went wrong the following day. He phoned me that a girl that he like proposed to him. He asked about my feeling. i told him that i will be sad. I asked him did he ever like me. his answer cause me to have heartbroken. He said that he don't have feeling for me. At that moment, i feel that he is playing with my feeling.

if he didn't like me, why he want me to become his gf?i really don't understand!Now i recalled back, his words and action are playing me. he used to said that i'm the best and the most ideal for him. But, finally he said that he don't have feeling for me. i asked him we really can't get back anymore. His answer is don't know and nuisance. Last night, i knew that he already have a gf. i'm the one who proposed to him at first.I want you guys to let me know, did he ever like me or play me?

Answer 1

oh my gosh it made me cry i feel really sorry 4 u.

Answer 2

Im sorry that you are upset. You must feel betrayed, like he didn't hold up his end of the bargain, and mislead - in that you didn't know he liked any other girls. That must be upsetting. The good thing about this situation is that you found out that he is pretty immature - he was hiding things from you and misleading you - but you didn't end up married to him. So be sad for now, but later realize that you are lucky that you didn't end up with such an immature guy. Feel better!

As an addendum, to answer your later question - he probably did like you. But guys, especially high school guys who are immature, can be very fickle. They don't even know themselves, so they don't know what they want yet. Im sure he liked you a lot. But he's still trying to figure out what qualities he likes best in a girl. That doesn't mean the qualities you have aren't wonderful - it means he is confused about his preferences, which have nothing to do with you, and do not reflect at all on you. What are your preferences? Probably a guy who is a little more mature, I'd bet!

Answer 3

Guys play games too! He may just be saying these things and bringing a fake person into this to get a rise out of you to get you back sooner. If you really have feelings for him let him know how you feel and explain why you cant be with him if its meant to be then you will both know when the time is right!

Answer 4

99.999999% of high school relationships end like that. Look, try and console yourself with the fact that had you married him after highschool you both would have continued growing, maturing and changing and then you would've had kids together and been miserable and divorced at 21 etc... As you get a little older you'll start understanding who you really are, and only than will you understand what you really want in a guy. You got lucky.

Answer 5

This is why... when you date someone and break up.. and they promise to get back together or say they wanna get back together youshould trust them or not because feelings change sometimes..so its not really good to get attached I know from experience ... i've learned the hardway more then one time.. so now when I date someone and we break up and the guy says well we might get back together in the future I dont get my hopes up for it I try and move on... and to be completely honest I dont trust alot of guys because alot of them screw u over in the end and lie and cheat and play u and use you... so It takes alot to get me to trust a guy... so I'd advice thinking" well theres more fish in the sea" try going out and seeing other people and allowing yourself to let it go

Answer 6

u really do not need an answer to the q coz u already have the answer rt there if someone does not feel the same as u do move on there is always someone else who feels the same as u do for u so go find that someone

Answer 7

Honey if he just out of the blue doesn't have feelings for you after one day...then he never did. He has been playing with your feelings all along. He isn't worth you feeling heartbroken over.

Answer 8

WELL IF HE REALLLY CARED, HE WOULD OF STOOD BY YOU. BUT HE WENT BACK TO HIS EX, DON'T PONDER OVER HIM, HES NOT WORTH IT. IT SEEMS THAT YOU GOT A GOOD HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDER. DO WHAT YOU WANTED TO DO . STUDY AND AFTER GRADUATION, YOU HAVE ALLTHE TIME TO SEE MEN. AND THE RIGHT ONE IS OUT THERE WAITING FOR YOU. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 9

i think you should give him time. don't talk to him....if he talks to you again after a while. then he really does like. maybe he said that cause he got nervous. just give it time. things happen for a reason<3

Answer 10

oh im so sorry to hear that wow it sounds like my ex but he asked his ex to marry him and then asked me to be his girl on the side......i said no and threw away everything he gave me its hard it really is im so sorry your going threw the same thing i did the pain will go away in time take time to let yourself heal again im really sorry

Answer 11

he sounds like the type of guy that says fancy things and maybe he DOES mean it at the time, but he says more than he means. i think he played with your feelings...