Playing hard-to-get?

Question

I know that this girl likes me, and I like her back, yet she seems to want the GUY to do everything. Like online, she waits for me for start the conversation, and she only starts it after a while she has noticed I havent IMed her yet. My friend says its because she doesnt KNOW if Im into her as much as she might be into me. So should I keep flirting a lot with her? And in person, she hardly talks to me and kind of wants me to talk. Is this just playing "hard-to-get?" How do I KNOW that shes into me as much as shes hiding it?

Yes, my friends have talked to her and she likes me.

Answer 1

It could be any number of things behind her behavior.
1. She could be shy, and not know how to start a conversation with a guy.
2. She could have been raised to believe that it's the man's job to initiate conversations, it's the man's job to ask them out, and it's the man's job to, in general, make the first move.
3. She could be trying to make you prove that she means enough to you that you are willing to go to the extra effort to win her over. She doesn't want to come across as a pushover, or an easy girl.
4. She could be playing hard to get, just so that you will appreciate her that much more when you are together.
5. She could be playing games to flatter her own ego. She gets a thrill out of making guys pursue her, even though she doesn't have feelings for them in return.

No matter what her reasons are, I suggest you stop playing around with flirting and conversations. Swallow your pride, dig up some courage, and ask the girl out. You won't learn anything, or get anywhere, if you let things stay where they are now.

Answer 2

since your sure she really likes you this is my advice for you, women/girls don't continuously play hard to get, so if your interested then I think you should keep flirting with her and talking. In person, you could ask about her behavior, if she becomes rude then she's not that interested. If she has a decent sounding excuse, then I would keep talking to her. In your case, I would wait no longer than one month for her to at least start to loosen up and make contact with you first. Maybe she really likes you and is tongue tied, and it could be true she might not think your into her like she is into you so she waits for your message. If you been talking online for awhile, such as 2-3 months, I'm leaning towards she doesn't want to talk to you period. I don't care what kind of situation it is, it works both ways and is a two way street.

Answer 3

Hard-to-get is when a girl makes you chase her. she gives you signs that she's not interested when she really is. she's a tease and overall ballbuster

sounds like girl you're talking about is just awkward around you. she likes you but prolly feels weird about goin up to you.

hate to say it, but as the guy, be prepared to do everything for a long time. Guys ask for phone numbers, for a dance, take a girl out, etc. etc. Girls have it easy and just kick back and wait for a guy to come up to them.

something that would help is ask her lots of questions. MAKE her talk. ask her How and Why so she keeps talkin. don't ask her yes or no questions, cuz than it ll just stop there. Girls love to talk, you just have to figure out what it is they like to talk about.

good luck!

Answer 4

Don't confuse hard-to-get with simply not being interested in you. If your friend hasn't talked to this girl to find out what she's doing, then you shouldn't believe that explanation. When they like you, they try to help you out. Good night!

Answer 5

don't play those games. their not fun. trust me. cause then she might get like the idea of not liking you anymore. i think you should talk to her in person. you kno hang out with her. become friends. then i think you kno what next move to do. =] good luck

Answer 6

WHy don't you ask her out? Then you'll know if she truly likes you? I really do think she's playing hard to get.

Answer 7

maybe she's shy