I've known my ex for 7 years now. We have 1 daughter together. We have been seperated for about 2 years now. For 2 years I have tried to "Move on" 1st I moved 2 hours away from him. Then I moved a whole other state away from him to put some distance between us. My daughter and I are moving back, actually about 5 min away from him. He has this Idea that we might get back together. These past few weeks he's been texting me, and calling me alot. However there is another Man in the picture. Someone I care for dearly. And Possibly love! I love to be with this new guy he makes me Happy. I simle a lot when I am with him. And Just being with him feels good. But I feel as if something is missing...theres a feeling that is not there, that was there with my Ex. When I am with my Ex everything seems to fit. We may fight, and argue. But I melt when He looks into my eyes. and the calls and text that I have been getting from him...I feel that old feeling again. The 1 that is missing with this Guy.
2007-01-07 16:02:25 · 15 answers · asked by harmycj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...this is hard. Maybe you should get to know your Ex again and see it if could work out, but first get to be friends again. That way, you can compare what wold be better for you. With your new man, does he know about this with your Ex? You should tell him how you feel about him and that he means a lot to you, but you are going to have to figure this one out. Depending on how old your daughter is, you could ask her, who she thinks you have done better with. Personally, I think that being generally happy with the new guy is better than having that special feeling, but arguing a lot with your Ex. I wish you the best!
2007-01-07 16:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by gracie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did the relationship end with your ex in the first place? Because more than likely, if it was something significant enough, it probably won't change or be any better if you go back to him. I say this from personal experience. That "feeling" you have is likely just out of the fact that he is familiar to you, and because of your history together. What you should be focusing most on is what is best for you and for your daughter. Evaluate the reasons that your relationship with your ex ended, and if it was something that you cannot deal with again, then just don't go there again. If you decide to pursue the new guy, take it very slow. You have a daughter to think about, and it's probably not best for her to see her mother in and out of relationships over and over again. I can't really give much more advice without knowing more about the men and the situation, but I hope that helps a bit, and good luck. : )
2007-01-07 16:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what is going on now with the ex, whatever problems made him an ex in the first place are probably still there. I know that your feelings are hard to deny, but it may be a mistake going back. Maybe getting the ex out of your system once and for all will make it easier to work things out with the new guy. Remember too that if you go back, the new guy will probably not wait around for your next separation. If you do decide to go back to your ex, make it on the condition that you seek couple counselling to work through the problems that drove you apart the first time. Only you can decide where your life should go. Good Luck!
2007-01-07 16:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always believed you have to do what is best for your children. You also have to do what is best for you. If you and your X are fighting and arguing...do you do this in front of your daughter? If you are this isn't what is best for her or good for her. She along with all other children needs a good loving stable environment. I wouldn't want my children to grow up thinking a relationship or marriage is all about fighting and arguing. As the others said he is your X is an X for a purpose. If everything isn't there with this new guy maybe you should get over your X and move on. That might help that something get there that isn't there now. It would be bad to start a new relationship before getting over the X. I learned from bad experience.
2007-01-07 16:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by gemini93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel with your ex, its comfort. You guys have been through alot together (a kid). And there's that emotional boudary you guys have crossed, and now you share, and always will. You don't feel that with your new guy, because you haven't yet had the chance to experience it just yet. You left your ex for a very good reason i'm assuming, because you went out of the state to be away from him. And this new guy sounds wonderful. What more do you want then a guy who makes you smile ? And this may sound very cliche, but go with your gut, if you second guess yourself on your ex, then I'd suggest stay with your new guy. Give it time, before you and your new one to have that emotional connection, things take time. And so far it sounds like you are pretty sure abotu him.
2007-01-07 16:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. You have been with your ex for 7 years...that is so much time to get to know everything about this person also you have a daughter together...that's what bonds you even closer. But you need to ask yourself. Which one is going to make me happy constantly, never make me feel down about myself, and provide for me and my child...
If your ex, answers yes to all of these...then try again with him. But if this new guy has made you happy and also date you knowing you have a little girl (which is special because many guys don't date women with children) has shown that he really care for you. And if he answers yes to all of those questions too...then I say stick with him. Because he has given you every reason to trust him. And there must be a big reason why you separated from your 7 years relationship.
It's nice that you melt and feel something when you are with him. But don't put yourself through heart break and arguing everyday with your ex.
Just ask yourself those three simple questions...also ask your daughter...it's important to be with a man that is going to make your little girl happy
Good luck!
2007-01-07 16:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your ex haven't "fixed" what broke you up in the first place, getting back with him won't work. You both will fall back into the old habit that made you break up in the first place. If you haven't worked out the problems, either work them out or let it go. Before starting a new relationship, make sure that you either have your ex completely out of your system or you will be bringing baggage into the new relationship, and that's not fair for a new man. Maybe this particular new man is not for you, even though you have deep feelings for him. Sounds like a little soul searching is in store for you... Best of Luck
2007-01-07 16:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married twice, son with the first, yes there was something missing, I got over it after a few years,well quite a few. don't let this drag you down,if you like this other dude, guy , what ever, then go with it you all ready know what what your ex is. so why did you two split in the first place. life is to short to spend it with somebody your allways fighting with or disagreeing with
2007-01-07 16:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by dave s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well number one it would depend on ...the reason why he broke up with me.. if it was because he cheated or something I would move on.. go with the new guy cause the old one would just.. hurt u again.... and if it was fighting over something stupid I might give it another chance... depending on the situation
I would need more information to help u out anymore
2007-01-07 16:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋