My mother is the big problem because she's too religious and way too illogical. My father is the polar opposite. I'm bisexual, but I get yelled at by one and ignored by the other. My imeddiate family doesn't really eccept me, but they love me (I think). I've been manic depressive for some time now and just need some words to help me think....I've asked a similar question before so I doubt anyone can give me anything new. I'm twenty-three bytheway.
2007-01-07 16:00:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
well im bi too so i know how u feel. to deal with ur parents try to sit them down and talk to them both at the same time. tell them how u feel and wut u dont like about how they are treating u. tell them family is supposed to love each other no matter wut. im 13 and thats wut i did. hope it works for u.
2007-01-07 16:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 44 and I must tell you that some parents never do become anymore understanding, helpful, easier to get along with, fair, or what ever else we'de like them to be, unfortunately.
My advise is that you just become very comfortable with yourself, regardless of them and their shortcomings. Be your own person, love them for who they are but accept that you really cant change them much if at all.
About the manic depressive part (aka Bi- Polar) I have a brother with this, and boy is he a different person when he isn't taking his medication. This condition is a chemical imbalance in the brain, and doesn't just go away. Without proper diagnosis and meds if needed, you may not be enjoying life the way you could be. It's worth checking into don't you think?
oh and btw there's an old saying that goes...
unfortunately you cant pick your family. ( a reference to the common imperfect family member) you're not alone.
Take care...
2007-01-08 00:26:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a son who is almost 21. I'm also what you'd call "religious" and yes, like your mom, I'd have a very hard time accepting my son's decision to be bi-sexual. But at the same time, I love my son, no matter what, he is part of me and always will be. Don't expect her to accept your decision, however, please tell her not to lecture you anymore. Tell her you know where she stands and how she feels about it, but tell her you'd appreciate her love despite her disapproval. Tell her you'd also appreciate her prayers. I'm sure she spends time praying for you anyway, but for her to hear that you appreciate them would sooth her spirit a bit. Everyone benefits from prayer - - - no matter who they are or what they do.
Yes, I'm sure your family does love you very much. Treat them with love and compassion no matter how they treat you in return. They will eventually get over their hurt and hopefully everything will get better.
If you want something to think about, think about this:
If you had only one more day to spend with your family, how would you spend it? Ask your mom the same question. Then work towards that goal for every day.
2007-01-08 01:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At twenty-three years of age you know there is a mask worn in society. How can you live unless you have a mask for your type of people. When you find your own group of friends you will be happier.
2007-01-08 00:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I sent you an email............I want to talk to you personally. Hope your doing okay.
2007-01-08 09:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Perfectly Insane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋