Well, my ex left me 6 months ago, and he did it totally f***ed up. He just packed his s**t while I was at work and took off. Well come to find out that he went running back to his babies momma cause she needed help financially. He really hurt me, in the worst way. Well now he calls me all the time. I have gotten over that he left me, I'm not the type of person to totally hate him. I'm one who if I ever loved you, you will always be in my heart. I have hung out with him a couple times, but i feel weird about it, like I shouldn't be hangin out with him at all, and to top that his girlfriend(babies momma) has no clue that he calls me all the time and we hang out. Should I keep in contact with him or just cut him totally out of my ?
2007-01-07 15:57:49 · 24 answers · asked by coastie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get rid of his sorry butt. He's just using you.
2007-01-07 15:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by Suga 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel, and what makes it hard is the fact that you sound like your someone with a genuine heart.
To be honest, you will always have feelings for this guy. However
now is the best time to move on. In time you will meet a special person that would not even dream of compromising a relationship with someone heartful like you!
Everything in life happens for a reason and I'm sure you have learnt and grown from this relationship.
You deserve more, don't settle for someone who didn't even have the balls to talk this out with you. You can imagine what he is capable of ****ing up or lying about next!
You don't need him! Jump into your next adventure & live!
2007-01-08 00:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely cut him off gurl! And I don't say this in a"vengeful angry girl"kind of way.Really it is not healthy.Tell him that it is not fair to his current gf that he still calls and wants to hang out with you especially if she don't know about you.Because you didn't appreciate the sneakiness and secretiveness when it was done to you and that you really got hurt and don't want to be guilty of the same.Besides girl you deserve more and on some level staying in touch with an ex may prevent you from moving forward or hold you back from other opportunities.Hope this helps.And gurl find you a man who'll 100% completely love him some you.
2007-01-08 00:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by southern_soulful_sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to let him use you? He is only thinking of himself. Let him go. You are better without him. You might miss a great guy while you are wasting your time with ex Mr. Heartless. Also by the way..the way he left you, and the way he is lying to her by omission proves he is a coward with bad character. I am sure you can do much better. When I say he is using you. I don't mean to imply you are sleeping with him ...that is your business, but he is using you to make himself feel good about having two girls on the string. walk away, never look back and never regret it.
2007-01-08 00:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a kid. He has to grow up at some point, and start thinking things through and making decisions for himself rather than let the consequences of his not-so-well-thought-out actions pull him in all directions. He falls in love with a girl, they have unprotected sex. Consequence = kid. He's dating you, and probably likes you, but feels loyalty (as he should) to the mother of his child. She calls, he is confused and goes running. Consequence = he looses you. He should realize by now that A leads to B. Until he can figure out causality, and can figure out how to manuever situations so things work out the way he actually would like them to work out, he's not making his own decisions so much as reacting to things. And do you want to be with a guy who is actually in control of his own life, and can anticipate the effect his actions will have - or one who is always just reacting to the consequences of his actions? Because right now, he is the latter.
2007-01-08 00:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on, that's just not right! and you know it. even though you moved on you feel like he should be where he belongs: in your past. if it feels weird to you, then dont hang out with him anymore. he's carrying a lot of baggage, and you feel uncomfortable by that, even if you dont have feelings for him anymore. there's one thing for sure: just because you forgave him doesnt mean that you forgot what he did. and you never will. which is another reason why you feel weird around him. not to mention that if his girlfriend finds out about you two hanging out she is most likely to flip out. and then you'll have some unwanted drama. do what you gotta do, girl! :)
2007-01-08 00:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you is to totally walk away from him and never look back. The low life wants his cake and to eat you too! That is not right for you or her either. If he is gone back he should be back all the way. Period Dot end of conversation. Get him out of your misery!
2007-01-08 00:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him out totally, what are you waiting for? He left you in a bad way, he is back together with the mother of his child and he's lying to her and taking advantage of you. Stop talking to him.
2007-01-07 23:59:53 · answer #8 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too. Maybe the reason his gf has no clue is probably because if she found out he was hanging out with you she wouldnt like it. So that makes him a liar. If he's lying to her, what did he lie to you about? you say he moved out without telling you, went and moved in with her, to me that says he had been "hanging out" with her while he was living with you.
it says a lot about you, something good, that you dont hate him. im not sure i could not hate someone for doing that to me.
in the end its up to you, but i think eventually he is probably going to want more than just to hang out. and if you are asking for advice i gotta wonder if it doesnt feel right to you too.
2007-01-08 00:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by hippieiam29 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a guy who will never be happy with the one he is with. Keep him if you want to be hurt again. Maybe you should teach him a lesson.
2007-01-08 00:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, my advice is to do what you feel is right. If you feel weird spending time with him, don't. If it feels uncomfortable or painful, don't keep him in your life. Anyone like that is only going to spend a lifetime hurting you if you let them.
2007-01-08 00:02:08 · answer #11 · answered by rainthatwalks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋