3yo anxious to start preschool tomorrow - suggestions on how to reduce the clinginess?

Answer 1

I was more upset when my son went to pre school than he was! I let my son take a favorite stuffed animal with him (the school said it was o.k. of coarse). After a couple of days, he didn't need it anymore because he was excited to go. I on the other hand had to call once a day! If the anxiety gets worse, you may need to switch schools because someone may not be nice there.

Answer 2

funny - these other answers tell you to ignore how your child feels, pretend he is only picking up on your feelings, and force him to fake an enthusiasm for something he doesn't want. Gee, why are so many people on antidepressants and in non-communicative relationships?????


clinginess is normal and natural and only when parents try to shut it down do they create more problems, making their child ashamed of their own feelings. 3 years old is far too young for school. the school has nothing at all to offer your child.

a three year old learns in the context of a one on one relationship with mommy. period. that's the research, it's well known by any doctor who isn't trying to justify not raising their own kids.

read "The Irreducible Needs of Children" by greenspan, child psychiatrist, and dr. brazelton, emminent pediatrician. what do they say? no separation from mom before age 5 is useful for the child, is usually damaging to the child, and preschool is totally and completely inappropriate to how a child learns.

Suggestion to reduce clinginess - learn what is age appropriate and use it. Your child being clingy shows your child is paying attention. Now it's your turn to pay attention and respond by meeting your child's need to avoid separation from you and avoid utterly stupid situations like a preschool classroom.

Preschool destroys learning. Only children of uneducated single moms (that's the research) benefit from preschool. Every other kid is hurt by separating from mom. Gee, why do they lie to us like this?????

Answer 3

3yo's are usually pretty much game for most things unless they've picked up that mom & or dad are nervous about it. explain all the exciting things they'll experience, be joyful for them. does your pre-school allow you to take them in and spend time with then before their day gets going? mine did and as soon as my little one got caught up in the first activities of the day i slipped out. the first day was only a bit over an hour, and i was there to collect 'em up and all i heard about was what they did. just don't project YOUR fears or worries on your little person.

Answer 4

Encourge the kid and prepare ur kid mentaly by giving him Info that what will be going on during the day it will be a fun etc and make him/her very clear from the first day that he have have to go daily no excuse on this
one more thing prepare a lunch which he like most
best of luck to u and ur kid
if u can photograph his first step out and share within this comunity it will be great .........

Answer 5

You can help your child by making sure to act really confident yourself b/c if you seem anxious and unsure your child will pick up on it. Don't linger at the school for a long time b/c it could make the separation harder and make sure to say good-bye before you leave.