My lover is very nice to me. But there are few things that I like to change in his behaviour. He is basically very soft spoken. But when he is angry its the reverse. He shouts at me for all small things and we land up with a fight. How can I change this behaviour of him without hurting him.
I want him to change... Please suggest.....
2007-01-07 15:38:33 · 3 answers · asked by kirthi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can never change another person, but you can change how you relate to him.
2007-01-07 15:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think you must be clear whether is really just "his behavior" you want to change from him... if so I dont think the right way for you to say it its that "you want him to change". We fall inlove with someone exactly because of the way they are.. and we can't be with someone expecting that person change... because they just might not change.
But i can tell you i do understand if you mean behaviour... its happened to me also... even the persons that love us can behave badly and hurt us. I can advice you to just be honest to him... and let him know how by the way he behaves he hurts you... he might get confused as many.. that what you want is to change him so try to make clear you love him but he just "handle" some things in a way you would like him to change so that he doesnt hurt you. Trust me if he loves you he will understand you and will try to behave better towards you..
Good luck.
2007-01-07 15:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Aija 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. Don't even try. If you don't like his behaviour, then find someone else.
2007-01-07 15:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋