a question about abortion?

Question

i know that posting this in the religion section will get a lot of hateful answers, but i want you to think before answering.

i am pro-chice because i feel that every abortion situation is different.

for example: a 13 year old had sex with her boyfriend and got pregnant. she will have to quit school, depend on her parents to support her AND the baby, miss out on an important developement time for HER, most likely live off minimum wage for the rest of her life because of the time she missed in school. the boyfriend, being a teenage boy, freaked out, and refuses to support her and denied having sex with her.

or another scenario, a 26 year old, college grad, with a steady boyfriend and an above minimum wage job has sex with her boyfriend. she gets pregnant and wants to get rid of the baby. she could support it, her boyfriend is willing to get married and help her, and the baby would be born during a stable time in the parents' life.

who should get an abortion?

i don't support pre-maritial sex because i think that these situations can be easily avoided. however, you can't stop teens from having sex. it's just a fact.

by the way, the example of the teenage girl is true. she is not getting an abortion because her parents won't let her. but do you think she should have?

the problem with giving the child up for adoption is that the time, in the 13 year old's case, spent during her pregnancy is gone forever. being 13 is a crucial time in your life. you are learning how to live and school is only begining to reach the higher level. the girl will have to miss crucial parts of her schooling and social developement because of the time taken from her. and she would be labeled as a sl ut and would school would never be treated for who she was. she would be known as the girl who got pregnant, not her name or personality.

yes, she was stupid to have unprotected sex. no one at that age should EVER have sex.

Answer 1

I too am pro choice, but I must make it clear that abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. My personal opinion would be to allow both to get abortions as each case is different. Until you are placed in that situation you can't begin to know what each is feeling and therefore can't begin to make a decision for someone. Who has the right to sit in judgement of anyone else. The 13 year old could be a very mature girl and have what it takes to be a great parent, of course it would be a struggle, but don't underestimate anyone. The 26 year old could have been cheating on the boyfriend, or has discovered that a diesese will more than likely been passed on to the child and the childs life might be so bad that it would seem alot more merciful to spare any human. The point is, there are always circumstances that surround an abortion, and even though we as a society feel it is moraly wrong, we also aren't the ones who will have to live with the consequences of these actions. I say take everything into consideration and allow the individual the freedom of choice for her body

Answer 2

"Teenagers will have sex and thats just a fact of life, we can't change it?" Do we give up so easily on our teenagers? If they are doing something wrong, we need to stop it. This is what happens in a Godless society. People scream and want God out of everything, and when we leave Him out of our lives, this is what happens.

In the case of the 26 year old, if she doesn't want to have a child, she must be careful. She cannot kill someone, everytime she wants to have an orgasm. Does that mean that when we make a mistake, we just kill someone and its all over?

The 13 year old's parents are right and I really respect them for the choice they've made. Very few people would do that. They are showing their child that she needs to take responsibility and that her actions have consequenses, they are not killing someone and sweeping it under the rug. At least this 13 year old will think before she leaps again.

In the case of rape it may be different but where people have been careless, they can't just kill someone and forget about it. If that is the case, there is nothing wrong then with killing a kid or a grown up to cover up what you've done right? Is that the society where we want to live in? If we don't have the money to raise our children, why don't we just kill them? We can even get rid of our teenagers because they seem to be taking a good part of our life away right?

I'm sorry if I sound rude but I was a child who was almost aborted but I'm happy that I'm alive today. I am a person, I have a life and its good. We should all be very careful in our actions.

Answer 3

There is no "should." The law says either has the right to choose what they do.

Unfortunately, the parents of the 13 yr old (who obviously didn't know where their daughter was or who she was with for a significant period of time, and who didn't educate her about her development from day one) will likely, by some state laws, be the decision maker.

The better question would be how many times can we slap the mother of the 13 yr old for not taking better care of her child's developmental needs, for not having had a better idea of where her child was and who she was with?

The 26 yr old is an adult. Money and stability are not the only factors running through a woman's mind when she is faced with this decision. Anything she decides, for whatever reason, is no one's business but her own.

For the record, I would question the stability of a relationship between two people wherein one wants rid of the baby and one doesn't. Clearly this was not discussed before conception. Anyone willing to risk putting themselves in a situation without first having thought out at least some of the possible consequences and what they might do is not what I would call stable.

Answer 4

if the 13 year old girl is old enough to know about sex and to have it, she is old enough to know the consequences. She is also old enough to face those consequences. The 26 year old should definitely know what happens when you have sex, and should keep her legs closed or use birth control, Abortion is not an appropriate form of birth control. There is always the option for adoption for both.
as far as 13 being a crucial time in her life that is bull because she isn't doing to many valuable things with her life if she is already having sex at that age. So she at this time should be learning the lesson don't have unprotected premarital sex. The time the baby was killed was a crucial time of its life as well.

Answer 5

No to both scenarios. The 13 yr old girl can always be homeschooled for that yr so she won't miss out on a year of schooling, but the baby is a defenseless victim of circumstance. Give the poor child a chance to LIVE! How will that 13 yr thrive later on in life with the guilt of murder hanging over her head? Her best bet is to have the baby, and place it for adoption. Thank God this child has Godly parents!

The 2nd scenario just shows selfishness on the part of the woman. Her boyfriend is willing to marry her and do the right thing; be a man, and yet she STILL wants to kill her baby!

That's sickening!

Answer 6

neither. the 13 year old with have to grow up very quickly! its her responsibility to take care of that child. its wasy for a grown man to deny a child its even easier for a teenage boy to walk away.my feeling is,if you don't want to have a baby which -is a consequence of having sex (besides possibly getting an STD) then don't open your legs.i have no sympathy for teenage mothers. She won't have to quit school,there are many programs that can help her achieve her goals. the baby may slow her down a bit, but she doesn't have to settle for mediocre life because she couldn't keep her pants on at 13. her and her family would have some serious planning to do. the 26 year old grad is more than capable of taking care of that child.

Answer 7

Okay, here is a Christians answer:
NEITHER... here is why
1.There are thousands of families awaiting adoption.

2. 26 yr old college grad should keep HER LEGS CLOSED if she doesn't want a baby!!!


I personally know a 16 yr old... now 23 who was BRUTALLY raped by an unknown. Severly beaten in the process... She found out she was pregnant and was asked if she wanted to abort the child. She (at 16) thought to herself... what did this baby have to do with the crime...? I can't kill it. She also says that she realized that part of her would HATE the baby, because it was PART of the rapist... so she realized it had nothing to do with the rape but was iNNOCENT so she carried it and gave it up for adoption. She visist many times per year and is called the childs Aunty.

So abortion is wrong. As I said in an earlier post, if a woman wants to abort her body... FINE, just have the baby first!!

If you don't want a baby... DONT HAVE SEX!!!! It is only common sense.

Answer 8

Neither.

If the parents disciplined their daughter, she would have the self-control and courage to wait for sex until marriage. Since they didn't, the child shouldn't die for their lack of self-control. This is partly the parents' fault, for not disciplining their daughter, but the daughter still made the decision to have sex. If she was raped, I'd say that one crime (rape) doesn't justify another (murder of an unborn child).

As for the college student, they should have learned self-control as well. If either person, the 13 year old or the college girl wanted to get rid of the baby, they could put the child up for adoption. There are many ppl out there who physically can't have children, some of whom I've heard have tried to buy babies, they want one so badly. To rob them of the ability to be a parent by having an abortion is like spitting in their faces. It's incredibly wrong. Not feeling like you have a choice doesn't mean there isn't one.

If the college student's boyfriend wants to get married then, I think that's a good decision, it would provide a father for the child, and it's important for a baby to have both parents. In addition, I think it shows integrity, that the boy realizes the need for him to take responsibility for his actions and be there for his child.

Answer 9

If you believe that by having an abortion you are not killing a baby then we can have this debate. If you believe that it is a baby from the time that it is conceived than we have nothing to discuss--it is wrong. It doesn't matter the situation of the birth or conception. It doesn't matter if the pregnancy was wanted or not. It is not about what it will cost the mother, but about killing a life. I babysit for two children that were adopted. There birth mothers were both young mothers who couldn't care for their baby. It makes me sick to think of how those two sweet, fun kids could have been so easily erased.

Answer 10

If it was right would there be a need to ask anybody? It would be considered self evident truth but it is not. They both sound like convenience abortions rather than medically necessary. There is a principal in life that the innocent always pay for the guilty. This is true in insurance,law and most of all human rights.