For me: when relatives or sometimes friends visit for the first time since the baby was born and all of a sudden want to tell me how to do things their way. I know some may be trying to help, but it's overbearingly annoying. I would like to do things my way and what works for me and my child. I just want people to relax when they visit and love on the baby, not dictate and analyze every move I make. Any annoyances for you new moms?
2007-01-07 15:30:17 · 11 answers · asked by Kisses 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When family/friends/strangers/co workers/clerks in stores ask when you're going to have the next one...I had this question as early as when my son was 6 or 8 weeks old. Now he's almost two and you should hear the nagging...My usual retort is, Ok, will you carry and deliver the baby? Will you pay for the insurance, diapers, wipes, food, and clothing, daycare? Sheesh.
2007-01-08 01:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by aliaspice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol... something real similar. It was the advice on things I didn't really need advice on. I had people standing over my shoulder telling me to make sure that I wipe my daughter front to back. Hello?! I'm a woman myself, even if I had never been around a baby before in my life (which I have 9 nieces and nephews that I was there for every single one of their births and I have been part of their lives ever since) I would know how to wipe a baby girl's butt! It was the advice like that that irked me.
The second runner up, was all the people who would say to me, "Aww, what a beautiful little girl. When are ya'll going to try for a boy?" This started as soon as the baby was born. Like my life is not fulfilled until I have a boy. I would smile and say, "Hey, with the genetics in this family, we're glad she was born a baby!"
2007-01-07 15:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by niccichick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
advice that I started getting from 2 of my aunts as soon as they found out I was pregnant. Neither of them have even dated let alone had a child of their own, and yes they are both virgins. I still hate getting advice from them, their advice is best acording to them. Also now they are saying that we shouldn't have a 2nd child.
I was going to have an ultrasound last week, I am being tested for PCOS. Their first assumption was that I thought I was pregnant. I don't see how it is any of their business. They make it their business by going out and buying things for us that we never asked for then making us feel guilty in a way that they helped us out with this stuff and now they are getting low on income. My husband and I are on a disability pension which is their other problem. They for some reason think I have health issues that mean that I shouldn't be having children. They love our son, but they flat out told me that I should be happy that he turned out healthy and not have any more children.
It also basically perplexed me beyond belief some days when we would take our son out, right in the beginning, and he would be dressed in blue head to toe, he was only a few weeks at that point, and people would still feel the need to ask if he was a boy or a girl. I am sorry, but does it have to be any more clear, even his snowsuit was blue and his blanket in the stroller. I did dress him in pink and other girl colours in the beginning, but that was only at home because we didn't know the sex until delivery and we were moving the day after we left the hospital so there was no time for shopping for clothes. I used his blue stuff to go out in and the girl hand me downs were just fine for at home to keep him warm.
2007-01-07 17:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my daughter was born all the family members wanted to do was poke the baby. They'd jab at her chin and her stomach. I rescue her as soon as someone would do it and nicely tell them to "stop poking the baby" This lasted for a few months.
Now a days, it's apparantly their business to tell me how protect my child. I have a nephew that is shall we say at 4 years old, energetic to the point of not being able to sit in one spot for more than a moment. Every time this nephew sees my daughter all he says is, "I wanna hold the baby." I say firmly, "No." and all the relatives say, "oh, it's okay. let him hold her." I am going to politely tell them "this is my child and I will raise her as I see fit."
2007-01-07 17:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What irks me the most - when people ask me (the first week home from the hospital) when the baby will be awake so they can stop by for a visit. Like I know!
Second runner up - "Isn't your baby sleeping through the night yet?" No he's not - but he's darn cute at 3am.
2007-01-07 15:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy D 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, hands down, my irritation is how so many people (that have had children mind you) can not know how to help! I mean, is it that hard for women in their 50s with grown kids to *know* what to do? I am not talking scrub my toilets here, just maybe take the baby for 5 minutes so I can go to the bathroom in peace or offer to make a darn meal for us! People that just come to talk as if it is a regular day when I am stressed to the max, scared about my abilities, totally sleep-deprived and experiencing the worst PMS-like symptoms ever....Hellloooooo...can I get a little help here! Help!
Sorry, can you tell that a lack of help is my number one irritation?!
2007-01-07 15:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by imoffmynut 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Imoffmynut ~ whatever makes me scared to have children.
I mean, if I expect everyone else to do things for me when I have my first baby, I'm screwed. Some of us aren't lucky enough to have tons of friends and family around.
Wow, I sure hope my husband and I can handle it ourselves. Just like all these thousands of generations did before us.
2007-01-07 15:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Josi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one saying who he looked like the most... COME ON!!
by the time they get older they look soooo different.. and i cant even see who he looks like most... some say he looks like dad.. some say he looks like me.... really.. they have no idea...
just admit that hes a wrnikly little ball of skin thats cute.. with the same flat nose that every baby has for breastfeeding.. and all bays have blue eyes... and they might change.... just say hes cute for the love of pete... please dont compare..
my baby is a wonderful mix of the 'both' of us..
and dont listen to anyone that thinks they know it all...
The smartest doctor is the one that tells you " i dont have a nswer at this point"... No great man knows everything. be weary of advice and trust your instincts
2007-01-07 15:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by someone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i first had my son, it was that every single person wanted to hold him, and any one that was holding him and then he started crying they would stick their disgusting finger in his mouth thinking that it would stop him from crying. Even though i would tell them not to!
And parents that would bring their sick kids to my house when he was first born, and let the kids hold him, and touch his hands without washing their hands first....and ten roll their eyes and say that i was being over protective, and let their kid do it anyways...Drove me insane!
2007-01-07 15:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by miscillia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had tons of red hair and everybody wanted to touch it. I mean everyone strangers, family. I was like leave my poor baby alone!
2007-01-07 15:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by aimeeme_g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋