We are 14 years apart we get along great but we have had some problems and we brok it off for a few days then we got back together .now he broke it off and he will not talk or see me at all i have tryed ever thing !! I love this man and he has told me he cares alot about me and he thinks about me alot when we are apart and dose miss me ! he broke it off because i was late !!
I am on the pill but my blood count was low thats all ! we both dont want any more kids and he knows that.
But now he will not see me face to face at all ! I am lost with out my best friend him! he knows i love him !! Dose he need time ! Will he think about me ! Why is he acting so cooled to me ! He told me in a email he thinks its best we part & he cant do this any more but i love him and i want to see him!
Dose any one think he will think about this and cool down ?
I am 32 and he is 46 and i have never loved like this and we both have been marred befor and dvoiced . I sent him a letter and roses .
2007-01-07 15:16:16 · 6 answers · asked by Hart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He may believe that you are pregnant? There have been many cases where women got off the pill and not tell her man. Apparently, I believe that had happen, because when you told him you were late, he may believe you done it on purpose . . . to force his hand into marrying you.
My question to you . . . Are you Pregnant?
In either case, you must tell him . . . yes or no.
Plus he needs reassurances if you are not pregnant and you have to go off the pill . . . you tell him one month prior of going off . . . and tell him when you are back on. And it doesn't really matter, he should wrap his thing up anyways. Just in case this happens . . . I am not worried about disease . . . because it sounds like you two have been monogamous. But not all birth control is not 100% . . . so if you are on the pill which is in most cases 90% effective and he uses a condom which is 70% effective . . . the odds of you getting pregnant is much, much slimmer.
If you don't like condoms, and is not allergic to latex (he will need to see that in writing if you are) . . . and you keep telling him, that you want to feel him . . . you don't want him to wear a condom . . . in the back of his head he is thinking . . . you are trying to get pregnant.
So, now is out of the picture. How to get him back . . . Send him a note . . . be honest with everything . . . and tell him that you will give him time and space to be with himself to think.
Then leave him alone. Send him a message for his birthday or holidays if you want . . . asking how he is doing, how has he been . . . otherwise . . . stop calling. When the time is right and he is not with anyone else . . . he will call you.
2007-01-10 06:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a spoiled brat. If you both don't want kids, then there are 2 options:
1. You get your tubes tied, or
2. He gets a vasectomy.
The first is major surgery, the second is minor. But he hasn't even considered it, has he? By your description, he found you MIGHT be pregnant- and he "ran for the hills".
This man is, ultimately, selfish and unreliable. Maybe he will grow up, but at 46 he's more likely to just grow old(er).
2007-01-07 23:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Alan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are going through this. I hate to admit when me and my b/f got into it really really bad, I didn't see him or barely talk to him for 3weeks. Of course I love him still. He called me a lot. a whole lot. As he started calling less, I felt very lonely and started missing him more. I don't wanna tell you to play games, but if you wanna talk to him, try your best not to contact him. He still loves you Im sure. He will want to talk to you .
2007-01-07 23:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by saseebo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it and move on with your life. he's using the "late" thing for an excuse. he wants out and he wants you to leave him alone. men aren't like women. we might try to say something like "it's best if we part & i can't do this anymore" and just be playing hard to get...if a man says it, he means it. focus on your life and what you want (besides him). live right now just for you. you'll get over it in time and find someone else who truly makes you happy and loves you for the person you are.
2007-01-07 23:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by aj607 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want kids. You scared him.
I think you woke him up to the realization that he could get in way deeper than he wants. No, I don't think he'll come back.
2007-01-07 23:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the guy alone. He doesn't want to be with you anymore so stop being such a pathetic loser and get on with your life.
2007-01-07 23:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋