Why do women crave to be in a relationship so much?

Question

I mean, men are so annoying, bossy, super messy, smelly.(Here I'm talking about after dating for awhile- they let themself go). Anyway- there's so much to worry about when a woman gets with a man. (eg. him cheating, heart breaking, disareements, late night tears. etc.) I think women are so much better off without men. Don't you think? But what am I to say- I'm in a 3 year relationship. And boy, I hate picking after him. How do you long relationship females deal with his messy ways?

Answer 1

You know I was with a man for 24 years and for some reason we are apart not sure what happened ; But i would love to clean up after him about right now. You know the old saying you don't know what you have till you lose it. Well cherish him and figure it out together

Answer 2

I don't understand what you are talking about Roxy . . .

This is from your own Y!A profile . . .

roxylee11782
Member since: June 10, 2006 1,263 points

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About me: I'm 24 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend of 3 years. =) What more could I say.

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You are not even married to him and you are both complaining about your boyfriend and praising him. At first you thought his ways was cute and adorable . . . but now, you think he is a no good slob, who is fat, lazy and good for nothing.

To me, you are a typical woman . . . many women do complain about the same things. Thing is we didn't change . . . oh we do put our best foot forward . . . when we start dating but after a couple of months . . . we are in our routine because we are comfortable to you. As for letting ourselves go . . . everyone does that a little, it comes with age . . . but women take the cake . . . literally . . . after marriage . . . within the first year the average weight gain of a female is 35 lbs. Why else do you think they say that the most fattening desert is the Wedding Cake.

As for him cheating, women cheat just as much and in most States more often than men. Heart-breaking . . . women file for 70% of all the Divorces in the United States and 80% of men didn't even know until they got served with the papers. Disagreements . . . more like selective hearing. When you start dating a man . . . you compliment everything he does, his style, his hair, the way he does things, how he works to earn a living, what he does for a living, everything he done was right . . . after you two move in together . . . everything he does is wrong, he leave his socks in the living room, his underwear on the lamp shade, he works to much, he doesn't make enough money, he doesn't spend enough time with me . . . he is wrong, wrong, wrong. If his way was right in the beginning how did it become wrong. The disagreements you are having with him . . . is centered with you. Because he is not doing it your way (in your mind - the right way).

As for being better without men, move . . . leave him . . . tell him that it is over. Even though women file for 70% of all divorces, you know the standard of living goes up for the men, and goes down for the women. It is not a sexist thing . . . it is a fact . . . women spend more than men. Men do spend money, but usually, we wait to see if we can afford it, before going for it. Women are impulsive people.

As for your final question . . . "How do you long relationship females deal with his messy ways?"

Love . . . that is how they deal with his ways. If they truly love him, they would know all his faults - and he will know all their faults. And they don't care . . . because we don't love people despite of their faults, but we love them because of their faults, their faults makes them who they are.

And if you can't love a person, who he or she truly is . . . . then you never loved them . . . you only lusted them.

Answer 3

Well there are an endless amount of reasons of why people are in relationships and why people want to be in them, I can honestly say that ONE of those reasons possibility has to do with the fact that in society, despite the population of single females/mothers rising more than ever, there seems to be that pressure to find a man, even if you are rich, poor, have your own job, educate, uneducated- regardless of what you are, as long as you are a heterosexual woman, it just seems like life is not so complete without a man. It might even be biological but that's another story altogether- it's a shame that there people out there who look at a single 40-year-old and try to tell her that "the clock is ticking" and might wonder just WHY she's not with a man although it's none of their business!

On the other hand, I believe many women crave to be in a relationship simply to love and be loved back! It's so natural...

Answer 4

Good question. You might also ask why do men crave relationships (whether for a single night, a weekend or longer)? Relationships are what makes the world go around. But let's look at some realistic boundaries. There is nothing that says you have to have a relationship with a slob. Begin by learning to love yourself, honoring yourself and accepting yourself as you are, without judgment. Acknowledge your own greatness. Once you can say you honestly love yourself and can honor yourself by your choices, you will look for partners that truly honor you. You know the signs...what is his apartment like? How neat is his desk? Shat kind of reputation does he have with his friends? What about his car...is it always dirty? Does he practice good personal hygiene? All these are signs of a person who honors himself/herself. That doesn't mean he won't be a jerk, only that he takes care of himself. There are other things that are important too. But, if you're comfortable with yourself you won't feel the need to run out and grab the first guy who comes by who looks pretty good. You can afford to wait for the best. Good luck

Answer 5

Let me tell you something I've been single for a while, and is because i choose to be. I'm not getting over some one or anything like that. Is like you said being in a relationship is a constant worry that something will go wrong and is just a matter of time. And at least for me it wasn't letting me live my life. So it is my belief that women are better off alone and making them self a better person. But that's just me thinking out loud...

Answer 6

Women crave to be in a relationship so much because they fear being alone and need validation. Many do not feel complete without a man or feel there must be something wrong with them if they don't have one. They feel empty and believe they're surely missing out on something, even if that something is negative.

Answer 7

I don't really notice my boyfriend's errors because relationships require to put aside some differences, comprimise is a key word.

I jsut like the fact that a person I like likes me back and I don't have to really worry about being embaressed by getting to close to him and etc.

Answer 8

ummm it's like this... have you tried being in high school and you're the only one who hasn't been in a relationship!? sad sight huh? women have been molded to feel better when they are with a guy... society has made us become this... it used to be that women were educated just so they'll be pleasing to their husbands... it's sickening.

my relationship with my guy is almost 2 years... it's going ok coz we try to balance our social life, be giving and forgiving to each other and on top of that we trust each other to let the other out of the other's sight for weeks on end...it's all about trust and acceptance and doing what the other likes... my guy loves to hike and we did hike although my feet were killing me all the way to the top of the mountain...i did not complain coz i knew that he was enjoying himself... and he does accompany with things that i wanna do like watching romantic movies although he felt like sleeping or letting me eat what i want coz he doesn't care whether i gain weight or not.. he actually wants me to gain weight.

and i support him even when the time he wanted to get dreadlocks or the time that i dressed him up as a drag queen... it's all about being comfortable with each other

Answer 9

When you really love someone you want to clean up his messes.
So, you have plenty of tears even when you are alone so don't blame the man.

Answer 10

The love , security and companionship is worth the mess. You know this or you would be gone, Sorry you dont get to have it and complain about it.