Ive kwown this girl for over 1 year as we started work on the same day... but 1 year later I was out on New years eve with a group of friends including this girl, we where sat talking for ages and stuff and when i went to go get drinks she told my friend that she really likes me, and he told me all about it, but ive likes this girl alot. But she has a boyfriend, but she cant stop txt messaging me saying she misses me and thinks about me, we go out a few times and we are constantly holding hands n stuff in bars I really want to be with this girl, her friend says her relationship with her boyfriend is becoming worse, but this was said 2 weeks ago... Right what i want to know is should i be patatient and wait for this amazing girl or should i just try elsewhere(even though shes already said she wants me and that we are destined to be together) Life is tough
2007-01-07 15:12:13 · 3 answers · asked by carthy_123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, life can be rough. Obviously you have feeling for her, she may feel the same. But while she is in a relationship, bad or not, this is a bad time to step in. Holding hands is a bit much. If you are looking for a fling, perhaps this is the way to do it. If you seek a true relationship with this woman, honesty is what you need. Don't let yourself be a rebound affair, or a crutch for her lonelyness. I know this may seem harsh, but if she truely likes you, she would truely know what she wants. I hope everything goes well for you.
2007-01-07 15:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by tonka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people need a push out of a relationship that is already over, and it is very difficult to give you advice as an outsider, as I do not know what she is thinking. Words are words, but is she really that into to leave her boyfriend, or does she just want to have some fun. Unless something is tying her to him, e.g. kids, financial reasons, she may just leave him, but this should happen sooner than later. Maybe not tomorrow, because she needs to sort through her issues, but also not next year. Think about if she is truly worth it, and whatever you do, do not get involved in a full blown affair. You can be supportive if you really like her that much, but again, you must act somewhat reserved. Do not act pushy, try to give her some time to make that decision herself. If she is truly unhappy, she should leave him soon. Best of luck!
2007-01-07 23:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by nastuxa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really like this girl you should wait or say something to her to the affect of when do you think we can be together and see what she says. If she comes up with excuses as to why she can't break up with her bf then she is just playing mind games with you. At that point you should move on
2007-01-07 23:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋