For those who have been in serious relationships such as I have... how did you get over your former significant other without being very angry and resentful? And do you think it's possible to move on from someone while still loving (not being IN love but loving) that person?
2007-01-07 14:43:52 · 12 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's important to acknowledge and process those feelings and find ways to cope with them but at some point you have to realize that the feelings you harbour - namely anger and resentment, are only hurting you and not anyone else. Ask yourself, is that how you want to live your life? Life is short not to make the most of it and one of the things that made a big difference for me was repeatedly saying (and believing) that I DID NOT want to wake up one day 20 years from now and say "wtf did i do with my life?". It's been a while since I went through my split so I'm at the point that I can honestly take the good with the bad and realize that it helped make me who I am today - and I'm fabulous ;) (hahaha)
2007-01-07 14:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will start by saying I got back w/ a guy that I left because i was so heartbroken over my recent ex...i can not get over him ...I am breaking the #1 rule of never returning to a past relationship. And of course all of the problems are still there!!
You will be angry & resentful til you meet the NEXT one...then you'll forget about the love you had before....
And our hearts are capable of loving MANY people...so that's okay too!!
2007-01-07 22:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somone who looks like your ex, date him/her then dump em!
Or, take some time for yourself. Write them a letter about how you feel and DON'T and I mean DON'T actually send it. You will look like a fool. Think about what you don't like about that person. Read a book, exercise, travel. Pick up a new hobby. Do something you always wanted to do. Improve your life.
Perhaps most importantly understand that you may never 100% forget about them. And that isn't a bad thing. The pain will go away, and you will love somone else. When you think of your ex, you will remember the good times. As you should.
Grieve, move on, and be happy. It takes a while but focus on these things and you will be a better person for it.
Good Luck
2007-01-07 22:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Interested 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes move on, its really not that hard. There's no reason to be pst at any one you break up with or that breaks up with you ,even if they left you for so else. It didn't work out , maybe next time it will but you're wasting time with anger and resentment
2007-01-07 22:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by aspecialfred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
I don't think you ever really stop loving someone.
You just move on with your life without drowning yourself in old memories and everything....
& when you do... you can look back on them with a smile on your face.
I think you just kind of learn to live without them.
When I write this I have someone in mind...
I don't hate him at all.
But I'm doing perfectly fine without him.
2007-01-07 22:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by isabella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. I got over my Ex, in several stages. For a while I even hated her. Then I forgive her (after I realized the divorce wasn't all her fault), we then became distant friends (for our son's sake).
2007-01-07 22:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some ppl u just dont get over my ex and i went out for three years and i was madly inlove with him but he broke up with me for whatever reason and it really hurt me to the point i didnt wanna wake up anymore! but... trust me its been a summer and a few months i am better off with out him! i have a new man now and he makes me happyer thin ever it will take time to get over them but trust me they just werent the one for u the one will come sooner are later..
2007-01-07 22:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to be friends with your ex. don't dwell on all the things on what went wrong, just focus on builiding a friendship with him. then call and talk to eachother on like holidays and birthdays or just every once in a while to see what is up. and yeah, you can move on and still have feelings for someone.
2007-01-07 22:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by *MaE* 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if they hurt you, you have all the right to be angry..you dont need their approval on anything anymore ....move on with your life
2007-01-07 22:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hahaha...
I'm over him bigtime...
but I hate him..am resentful...& angry...lol
the trick is just not think about it...it's all over...movin' on...lol
2007-01-07 22:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋