my boyfrend and i have been dating for 3 yrs and im in luv w/ him, but im only 14. should i have sex or wait?

Answer 1

No, 14 is just too young. If he loves you, he will wait.

Answer 2

Well..if you've been dating for three years...what in the world were you doing dating at 11???! My parents knew where I was every second of the day at that age.
That aside, absolutely not. Don't have sex with him. I'm assuming you're a virgin. The first time, especially if you are that young, is painful, and it is a little bloody. Quite a scary thing if you don't know what to expect. When you're older it's much easier to cope with.
Second, at 14 most kids THINK they are in love. If you are in love with him you're the exception, not the rule. I find it hard to believe that a 14 year old could be in love, but hey, I guess it could happen.
Don't have sex. Even with protection you could get pregnant, get HIV or god knows what. Not to mention the fact if your parents found out....god help you and the boy. I'd put his butt in jail if it were MY daughter. And you'd be locked in your room until the age of 18.

Answer 3

Now don't get me wrong. I am no prude. I don't even believe in the Judeo-Christian sexual moral system. However there are very good natural reasons why human beings have to mature to have sex. One, it is so they can develope properly for themselves and the species. Two, especially in this society, they are ready for the responsibilities of a sexual relationship in the areas of legality, finance, socially and as regards to careers etc.

You say you are 14. This means that you have been dating since you are 11. You both are very young. Give youselves more time to get used to that aspect of your relationship and to have more respect to one another. It is 100 trillion years to the last star falls from the heavens: you two have plenty of time. You can afford to MAKE SURE. Also if he loves you he will have the respect for you to let you step back , take stock and decided when you are comfortable with it. And you likewise to him. A relationship, especially a permanent relationship is built on solid bases. RESPECT. TRUST, LOVE, COMFORTABLE IN HAVING SEX, LOOKING AROUND TO SEE WHAT IS WHAT, NOT RUSHING INTO THINGS. You two have a life to live. Make sure of it so that one day you can look back on it, in years hence, and say "We are glad we waited in the year 2007 for the sake of our careers, our life choices, our children and our financial status. For we have had YEARS to ourselves, so we are glad we gave our lives the chance and solid basis in the year 2007"
The bottom line is, that there is a maze of problems you two could get into as well. In most countries and states, having sex with a 14 y.o. is at least illegal if not frowned upon greatly. Also if your respective parents found out-what would it do for the situation? Also if you fell pregnant, and not all contraceptives work all the time, think of the interferrinence in your lives and the dent in your future plans. You will have started your adult lives by ruining them even before they have started. If you do not wait, you will inherit a potental if not actual army of problems and complications. Think before you do something that cannot, once done, be undone.
You's have so much time ahead of you. You don't have to make those choices yet. You can wait and see and give your'e lives the greatest advantage. Do it not for your'e "soul's " sake. Do it for YOUR'ES sake. For the great life of your's that is to come. And good luck-you sound like a sensible and mature girl to ask this question in the first place. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

You guys have waited this long, there is no reason not to wait a few more years. 14 is still to young to have sex, I know ii sound corney but you are still to young to truly understand the meaning behind it. If the two of you are truly in love then wait until you are a little older and wiser, makinglove does not mean you are in love. It is a way of expressing the love that you both feel and your needing to ask if you should means that you are not yet to the point of having a sexual relationship. There are so many other ways to show your love to eachother

Answer 5

I have had this issue before too. Mainly because I am Persian and my family have these dreams of me marrying and Persian and my bf is Latin. For a while, I kept myself distant from any type of social life so one day I will meet a good Persian guy through my family. Now, I am so in love with such a good Latin man, and the most important thing I learned is that I MUST BE HAPPY. You are first. Don't go through your life and let precious years pass you that you could of or should of been with someone you wanted to be with Only Becuase of how your family felt. If you stay strong about what you want your family will eventually come along and see for themselves your happiness. In the end, they really just want the best for you~

Answer 6

well if you're asking all these other people what you should do then you're obviously not ready. i would suggest waiting, you're still really young and have a lot of life to live, just give it time and when you are ready, you will know. i'm not gonna hound you about being 14 and considering sex because i was in pretty much the same position when i was you're age and now that i am older i am really happy that i waited.

Answer 7

1) Wait, you are way to young.

2) Wait, 10 years from now you won't want to have to tell your husband about the fact you've been sleeping with guys for 10 years...

3) Wait.. just surf over to see the "OMG I might be Pregnant and I'm only 15" questions here at Yahoo answers

4) Wait, it's NOT like you see on T.V. with lots of romantic music and crud.

5) Wait, it's Fricking ILLEGAL to have sex with someone as young as you are, even if you want to. It is called statutory rape. Your boy friend could wind up in jail for several years (where he will no doubt discover all sorts of new sexual experiences, but he probably won't enjoy them) AND then he will be a registered sex offender for the rest of his life. (Just TRY getting a job with that on your resume.)

Go to http://www.vahealth.org/civp/sexualviolence/varapelaws/

Then go find a good Church youth group to hang out with!

Answer 8

14 is too young to be having sex. You can try experimenting with other things, but if there is an accident of some sort, you don't want to be 14 and pregnant. Wait at least a couple more years.

Answer 9

Think about the consequences that come with it.
He's not going to be the only love in your life.
You need to wait for the right person and the right time.
Which will most likely be many years away.

Answer 10

WAIT! oh my lord wait!!! you are 14! do you think you could even really handle a baby at 14? Even if you really do love this boy and have been together for 3 years, you were together at 11. is that wait..7th grade? just wait. and if he loves you, he will accept you want to wait