she said we should just be friends because there was no connection. we never had a relationship but why does it take so long for me to get over her. its been 3 months. i still think of the times we were together. how i could have made things right to generate that connection...my friends call me at midnight for love advice, but when it comes to my own prob i dont know what to do...we go to the same college. there were a couple of times she even hugged me after she turned me down...why did she do that? how can i make it quick to get over this girl?? its so painful.
2007-01-07 14:28:11 · 13 answers · asked by vincent m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please dont tell me to find someone else tho...before i met her i was in love with someone who didnt return my feelings. now its like the same scenario but worse!
2007-01-07 14:31:55 · update #1
Dude find some things that you didnlt like about her, and plus she was probobly thinking about another guy while you were with her, the fastest way to get over someone is with anger towards them
so when you think of her.... think of this
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2007-01-07 14:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by [quarantine] 3 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is no consolation to hear, but we have had to go through this at some point in our life. You are feeling the pain of it because you were not the one who ended the relationship. Unfortunately the ones that are doing the breaking up want to hug and be "friends." As soon as you can realize that because you were not the one who ended the relationship, and this is what is causing the pain, the better you can understand why it is taking so long to get over it. You have to go through the mourning process in order to heal as this is liken to an injury. It will be another 3 months of feeling sad and lonely, and you are half way there. In the meantime stay as busy as you can. Go out with friends to take your mind off of things. School will help to fill the void with classes, and studying for your school work. When invited to go out, go. Do not stay home. Have the best time you possibly can. Blessings to you.
2007-01-07 22:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know a man who is in his 30s and he has been split from his ex for over 6 months. he is still very emotional and upset about the break-up, so the fact that you're still upset after three months isn't surprising.
there's no easy answer as to how you can get over the pain of a break-up. try being around your friends, and just knowing that you'll meet someone really wonderful, that you will care about more than this girl... it's important to remain optimistic. time is really the only thing that will make you feel better... don't be impatient with yourself.
as far as why she hugged you: she probably cares about you and wants to be your friend. she is probably also worried about how you're doing, and wants you to be ok.
best of luck. just be confident because you WILL feel better soon.
2007-01-07 22:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by karuna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It only takes long to get over someone when u really did care about them because if u didnt care about her it would be bothering u.It won't be a fast process to get over her especially if ya'll spend a lot of time together n getting with a new girl aint gonna make it better its jus gonna make u think about her n then thatz when ur gonna start comparing the other gyrl to her so take it slow day to day n if u have to completely cut her off to get over her then do it.
Believe i know i had a guy completely cut me off til he got over me and now were friends again it jus takes time....
2007-01-07 22:36:29 · answer #4 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel if though im only 12 i liked this boy and had kinda the same prob but then my friend naomi told me this there are plenty of fish in the sea i know its hard to get over 1 person because its said theres 1 of a kind but dont worry there are plenty of women out there and one somewhere out there is waiting for u, u may not like this advice because u have lots of feeling for her but life goes on and there are millions of women out there somewhere so take it easy dude
2007-01-07 22:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
with her around.. the old feelings you're trying to get rid of are most likely going to come back... start hanging out with girls you dont know and try to forget about her for a while. Maybe a new interest or new friends could take your mind off her.
2007-01-07 22:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Riah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the gym. hit the weights run on the treadmill, throw a few blows at the punching bag. Do whatever it takes. Work up a sweat, get winded, make your muscles ache.
The physical activity will clear your head. Trust me.
2007-01-07 22:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go occupy yourself with more activities to get over her. Try those that will tired you out - sports? Running or jogging is good. When your mind and body are too tired, you wont be thinking so much over it. Group activities with a bunch of friends will help too.
2007-01-07 22:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Cool Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way is to find things to occupy your time so that you will stop thinking about her. If that doesn't work, wear a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you think of her, snap the rubber band. It's a therapeutic method to help you change your thought processes.
2007-01-07 22:31:07 · answer #9 · answered by servinggodalone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're only human. its normal to feel that way. if she doesnt want something more then its her loss. she probably hugged you because she cares about your feelings, nothing more. i have trouble getting over people too but theres always someone out there that will love you for you.
2007-01-07 22:32:43 · answer #10 · answered by blob888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is nothing.
wait til you fall in love. I'm still incredibly in love with a guy and we broke up almost a year ago. THATS an ouch.
2007-01-07 22:32:01 · answer #11 · answered by luv2dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋