My bf, says that he cant get an orgasm bc it takes guys longer, that they have to stroke it. I'm 17 and he is 18...we have never had sex" does that have to do anything with it? He says he gets real hard and that hes starts a pre-, but he also told me once that he wasnt ready (i told him i wasnt ready and he told me that hes wasnt either) does he not want me...when i've tried to touch him he tells me he gets soft bc he gets nervous.what do y'all think?
2007-01-07 14:14:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, thats a little hard to say. Having been in the situation before, it could be he is just having problems. I know it is harder for me to orgasm if I am nervous or if I am in the "please the girl" mode. If you really want to try to fix it, talk about it and tell him that you don't care about any insecurities he might have about it. Make him comfortable and tell him to go ahead and try. And note that it might not happen the first couple of times, (like myself).
2007-01-07 14:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by lonely_wolf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really does sound like nervousness to me. Guys don't come every time, just usually or sometimes. If he's 18 and you're 17, it's normal to fool around even if you don't do "it". Could he be having some serious guilt feelings? Most guys would like it if their girlfriend did that, so that's why it sounds like something is making him uncomfortable. Also, where you are doing it makes a difference, and is it possible you'd get caught? You need a safe, comfortable place where no one will bother or interrupt you.
That SO does not make him gay. Some posters here are so immature. It totally does not mean he's gay!!!
2007-01-07 14:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by buffy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for him to get nervous and lose his erection. He puts so much thought into it and so many nerves that when it comes time to do it, he cant perform.Tell him not to think about it so much, just let it flow.It has nothing to do with you.He must like you if he's with you, right? :) When you guys are ready to have sex a man usually comes quiker than a woman. You'll see. Stroke it for him...foreplay works ;) Best of luck.
2007-01-07 14:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
calm down, lets things happen! the perfect moment will came do not be too much worried about go slowly take advantage on the kisses Hughes because once you guys have sex the all thing will be just about it and nothing is better them enjoying walking together go out to dinner movies and kisses that is really good.
2007-01-07 14:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by bruna d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal to have those kind of nerves all the time, but if he does it could explain why he goes soft. Just wait it out a bit more to see what happens..
2007-01-07 14:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you are confused and inexperienced. Get some legitimate counseling and find out what is what and certainly do that before you move any further with your relationship. Get your info from a professional so that both of you get reliable truthful info.
2007-01-07 14:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the middle of the night, Miss Clavell turned on the light and said "Something is not right!". Either he is not really a "he" or there is some medical or psychological issue. Do you really want to deal with this problem long term? - ah...no!
2007-01-07 14:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that he wants to have sex with you and he is not very patient. from my experience guy can *** in about 30 seconds. and if he is that young there is not a chance that he is going to loose his erection. just wait till you are ready, do it on your own terms and not his.
2007-01-07 14:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Diana R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute. Are you ready or not? If you are atleast tell him the truth!
Maybe he's truly in love and respects you to much.....(snigger)
2007-01-07 14:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't had alot of experience with girls, it could be true. It could also be true he is not into you. But some guys can't orgasm without the intercourse.
2007-01-07 14:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋