I have been in a fwb situation for a few weeks now. The sex is amazing, and I wasn't initially looking for a relationship, but it is starting to get hard to separate. We have been out in public recently as a couple, and I have introduced him to my friends, and he puts his arm around me and acts like he is a boyfriend when we are out. I know he is seeing other women, so I am trying not to get emotially attached, but his actions are confusing me and now I kind of like the idea of him being my bf. My friends also say, that he seems to be into me. Is he treating me like I am special because he is nice, or because perhaps, he is really into me and maybe wants more.????
2007-01-07 14:11:37 · 13 answers · asked by hotcanuckchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in a similar situation once and it didn't work out well for me, the guy treated me like a girlfriend, but he treated a lot of other girls the same way. If you're getting too attached just spare yourself and stop the fwb thing, if you don't it will only get worse. You could try to talk to him about it and see how he feels for sure first though, who knows, maybe you're far luckier than I am and it wil work out for the best, I hope so.
2007-01-07 14:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some situations such as this, it may start out with just FWB, no feelings or attachments, but if it's regular, frequent and has been going on for a while, emotions/feelings will develop because of time spent together and the intimacy that has taken place. It's become a bit of a commitment already. Although, this does not happen for everyone. Take it slow, let things flow as you go. Don't put any pressures on each other. Don't try to force anything. It's best when and if it happens on its own. Just make sure you don't have any expectations, even if you are starting to like the feeling of having him as your BF. Pay attention to his actions. They speak louder than words. If he continues to see others after a while, you decide what you need to do next.
2007-01-07 14:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never know how he really feels about you unless you do one of two things:
1.) Spend a day without sex. Spend time getting to know each other. Spend a full day or two in each other's company talking, taking a walk, shopping and just hanging out. Cut out at the end of the day without so much as a kiss. (Don't worry if it confuses him for a bit!)
-OR-
2.) Have "the" talk about how fun and interesting he is and that you'd think about taking it to the next level and does he feel the same way?
If you REALLY want to know how he feels....you'll have to take a risk and rock the boat.
That might not be the answer you were looking for, but I'm afraid these are the choices.
Good Luck to you!
C-F
2007-01-07 14:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before other advice...Remember to have safer sex. :)
He may want more and not even realize it himself. Guys are weird like that. Don't get emotionally involved yet. You didn't say if you have other guys that you are seeing? If not, get a few. Continue to play hard to get. Let him chase you a bit. Don't turn it into an ultimatum. But at some point your actions will make him ask for it - saying the words. If he is seeing other women remain confident that you are the BEST woman.
2007-01-07 14:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been seeing other guys as well and he seems to get jealous of them or questions you about them, i think hes into you..but i dont know the entire situation but he may just be a fwb...maybe one night when you two are together just ask him if he could ever see himself with you with a couple title
2007-01-07 14:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you want a clear answer about what he's feeling or thinking or whatever, you need to ask him because only he can tell you the truth about what's really going on. Don't get your hopes up until you clear the air with him and let him know exactly how you feel.
2007-01-07 14:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation, with my best friend I grew up with and known for years....it went on for THREE YEARS before I realized that he just enjoyed the "perks", and he didn't feel the same way about me that I did him.
It cost me a lot of heartache and I may have passed up some really good opportunities to try and wait around on him..... Believe me, have a chat with him to feel out how he's feeling or reign it in before it's too late to salvage your friendship.
2007-01-07 14:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is still dating other girls, then I don't think he is more into you because if he was, he'd stop seeing the other women.
He probably acts this way with whichever woman he is with.
He sounds like a playa.
A playa can make every woman he is with feel like they're the special one, but in reality, he's playing you all.
2007-01-07 14:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by bandd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about how you feel. Ask him what he thinks of you two being a couple, full-fledged. If he's seeing other women as dating && not a real relationship, it might be time that you && him got 2gether.
2007-01-07 14:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight up and ask. fwb is hard... sometimes feelings change. Best thing to do is be honest about it, to aviod problems down the road.
2007-01-07 14:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by buffy s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋