I am wondering about starting a new family at 47 with a woman and 8 year old from her marriage. I have raised my own children and what to know people's opinion about starting a new family so close to the golden years. I have been on my own for a few years and am thinking this is a very big change in lifestyle.
2007-01-07 14:09:30 · 13 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By all means, respect and acknowledge the feelings and concerns, if any, you are having about the change in lifestyle. You know what they say, "to thine own self be true".
Don't worry about any one else's opinion and decision but your own. You need to know within yourself if you love this person enough to "start over again ~ so to speak" to be a step-parent to someone else's child. Do you love this person enough to bring wonderful things to the lives of these two people without neglecting your own children? Whether your own children understand or not is not as important as your personal commitment to spreading yourself thin at times if that's what it takes. I this person makes you happy, and you feel all of your lives will benefit from the union, do it. If you evaluate things and conclude that your own kids will suffer, or wonder about her motives or commitment to you AND YOUR EXISTING FAMILY, step aside. Never leave your first family on the outside missing you. If you can honestly say that it will be good for YOU, your children and her and her children, go for it. We should all be happy and fulfilled..................but never at the expense of ourselves or others. P.S. I'm 47...son 17...would put it all together if I could pass my own qualifiers as outlined above! 47 is not golden years or even approaching. All childlren need is love and a loving environment. You don't have to live forever...none of us do or will. Can you step up to the plate and adjust if everyone and everything else falls in place? That's the real question...and the answer is different for every one of us.
2007-01-07 14:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one you have to figure out yourself. If you plan for you and your woman friend to have another baby, you will be responsible for at least 18 more years, no matter what. If you're not planning on having any more kids and are just intending to help your woman friend raise her own child, 47 is a perfect age to do so.
2007-01-07 14:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 04:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her very much and are in the desire of having companionship among other things a marriage involves, then go ahead and get married. Also consider how you would feel with another kid in the picture as well. If it's something you don't want to deal with, then not getting married would better suit you. Do what's in your heart and you'll be happy.
2007-01-07 14:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by JH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For crying out loud you're not in a nursing home. You are only 47!! Are you happy with her? Are you in love? By the way you are no where near the "Golden Years". 47 is an awesome age! Relax, PLEASE!
2007-01-07 14:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by stacia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is totally up to you. You have raised children so, you know what it takes, are you ready and willing to do it all over again? 8 is by no means a baby but, not grown either. So, are you willing and ready to do this? if you can say yes then go for it, if your not sure I would say end it now before it becomes harder and more hurtful to end it
2007-01-07 14:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love the person it does not matter what age you are. You are not dead until you are dead and having feelings for a person is not a crime at any age. You are a grown up and will be able to make that type for decision for yourself and know if you are ready for it or not.
2007-01-07 14:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by pimp_juice2272 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with the woman and financially capable of an 8 year old than go for it. If not tell her to hit the road.
2007-01-07 14:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Roger S 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
mine is 16 .. i started over with a 15 - 10 & a 2 yr. old !! it ain*t as bad as it sounds ! i love all my children dearly ! if you truly love her you will accept what comes with the package !! good luck to you !!
2007-01-07 14:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Barbie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and want to have a family with her, then go for it.
It doesn't matter what others say about it. It is up to you and your new wife.
2007-01-07 14:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋