How can I get over him?

Question

There is this guy at school and I have had the BIGGEST crush on him for over a year now. I've never felt like this about any of my crushes in the past. No matter what I do I can not stop thinking about him or liking him. The thing is, I am not this guy's type at all so I am afraid to tell him. We've never talked to each other. He is two years younger than me. Im 18 and a Senior, he is 16 and a Junior. I'm overweight and he doesnt like fat people. There is no way in the world this guy will ever like me so my question is, what can I do to make myself get over him and stop liking him?

Answer 1

Wow a girl with my name, glad to help. Go for it if you get turned down then, life goes on. You'll get over him. You'll move on, and even though you might think that you won't you will stop thinking about him. Even if it takes you a few days or weeks, it will happen. Don't stress out about it. So what if your 'overweight' or whatever you want to call it, he shouldn't care and if he does then he doesn't deserve you. Anyone that doesn't make you feel like your the most beautiful person in the world or anyone that treats you like your not, doesn't deserve you.

Answer 2

The most important sentence you wrote is - you have never spoken to each other. Basically that means that although you are physically attracted to him the reality is you don't even know whether you would get along. He might be really annoying as a person etc. But the only way you will know is to ask. If he knocks you back - so what? If the only thing you know about him is that he doesn't like fat people then may be he is just a superficial pretty boy that prefers his own reflection.

Answer 3

"he doesn't like fat people" is this your assumption or his statement? If it is your assumption, try not to think like that... good, kind people, the kind of people you should associate with do not care what a person looks like on the outside, but instead how that person acts and how they are inside. If that was a statement you heard him make.. my next question is how can you have a crush on him? Don't associate with people who would make a blanket statement like that, he doesn't sound crush worthy. My best advice for getting over a crush would be to be you, do things you like, spend your time the way you want to.. be yourself, if he come around great, if he doesn't you will be happy doing your own thing.. and who knows someone could come around who we see your fun, happy self, and have a crush on you !! smile, you never know who is falling in love with your smile !

Answer 4

theyre right that the fastest way to get over someone is to find someone else. but personally i dont think its the best as this may repeat the whole thing again. i suggest that you do something you like to do. get a hobby. meet new people and spend more time with family and friends rather than spending time thinking about him. ive had a couple of crushes. one ive been crazy about for two years and the other a year. now i realize i wasted so much time!! i could have done other things that would have boosted my confidence...it took three years of unrequited love for me to realize...life is short. dont waste it. good luck!

Answer 5

Get over him by thanking your lucky stars that you are smarter than most gals who obsess to the point of stalking guys who will never like them back.

Get over him by holding your head up high because you realize that you deserve better and won't stick around for the likes of him.

Get over him by thinking that you don't want to linger over a shallow, short-sighted guy who is too immature to appreciate someone like you.

You are a smart young woman! As long as you move forward with confidence, you will have plenty of choices in the future.

Good Luck!

C-F

Answer 6

Why do you have to get over him? It's okay to like someone even if they don't like you. Just keep an eye on this guy and (probably) sooner or later he'll do something so stupid or foul that you'll stop liking him so much. Or the opposite could happen...he might just learn to like you too. Who knows? Stranger things have happened.

Answer 7

You might not be able to do anything to change your feelings, so find someone else to focus on that you DO know, even if the feelings aren't as intense. The best way to get over a guy is to get with another one.

Answer 8

you don't have to stop liking the guy but doesn't also mean that you will chase him...you can turn it into something positive and beneficial for yourself and maybe use this as an inspiration than a destruction...an inspiration to do better in anything you do, an inspiration to be more health conscious, etc etc etc... and like any other crushes, it will eventually pass in its own time...

Answer 9

he sounds kinda superficial to me. plus, he's jailbait! and you've never talked to him so you really don't know here, but my question for you is what makes him sooooo totally great? hmm...is it what you've made him up to be in your mind, or is it really him? if you think about it, you've probably put this guy on a silver pedestal, and made him flawless. but in all honesty, he's probably just like every other 16 year old guy who just got his license, and drives to the mall to check out girls with his friends who aren't quite 16 yet, in other words, he's just not that great, don't get me wrong, he might be nice and all that, but not as wonderful as you have convinced yourself he is.

Answer 10

first of all you should try to improve you apperance by losing some of the unecessary weight, second learn how to love and apreciate yourself first before anyonelse and gain some confidence and go at least try to tell him about your feelings. and if that doesn't work out celebrate victory from you fears by having a nice piece of chocolate cake!!!