please help me. No.one has ever seen me naked before because I am incredibly self consious. My boyfriend keeps saying "don't worry I will love it. I love everything about you". But I'm scared he will be shocked and that my body will actually repulse him.
2007-01-07 13:27:24 · 29 answers · asked by d.l.x.s.l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry so much - I'm sure he will worship every bit of you - just make sure you are comfortable in your mind and then get your gear off!!
2007-01-07 13:30:16 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that there are two issues here that needs to be addressed. One is how you think your boyfriend will react when he sees you naked and the other is how you feel about yourself. First, I think your boyfriend will not be repulsed by you. Most guys are just so happy to see a naked woman that they don't care if she's got a rolls or bumps. And the truth is, that if your boyfriend loves you, in his mind you will look like a goddess. Second, I hope you would really think about why you think you are fat. Maybe you are a little overweight. Maybe your not. But I hope you would realize that no matter how big or small you are you can be sexy. Part of being sexy is attitude. I'm sure your boyfriend sees it in you and I hope that along the line you will see it in yourself as well.
Bottom line with your question is if you are not ready to take your clothes off in front of somebody then don't do it but don't allow a skewed perception of your physical self keep you from doing what your heart wants to do.
2007-01-07 13:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't be going out with you if you repulsed him. Don't be so harsh on yourself. Many of us are our own worst critics when it comes to body image. If you don't feel comfortable, then don't. But don't let the reason be because you think you are fat. And if it bothers you, try and loose a few pounds before you do. I can't see why your boyfriend would be repulsed...he's your boyfriend! And, believe it or not, some people are attracted to other things, not just strictly looks. Do what you feel is best, but give you and your boyfriend a little credit.
2007-01-07 13:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by mastress_of_the_universe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me. I am 100 % positive that his body isn't perfect, but would you care?? Um, no. Men are very visual. There is nothing hotter then a woman walking around naked. NOTHING. There is no man in the world that can resist it. He obviously thinks your beautiful, otherwise he wouldn't be with you. The hottest sex I have ever had in my life is when I finally said f*ck it and turned on the lights, letting go of all of my stupid insecurities. What would you tell your man if it were the other way around???
If you do it, he would never leave you because he will be hard pressed to find another woman with that kind of courage!!!!
2007-01-07 13:31:35 · answer #4 · answered by Chula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is with you and he has told you that he loves everything about you, then believe him and trust him. He wouldn't stick around if your physical appearance repulsed him. He doesn't need to see you naked to decide what he wants, likes or dislikes. I think he's already got that figured out. It's just how you see yourself......Remember, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and every "beholder" is different in preferences. Have confidence in his love for you.
2007-01-07 13:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy, and he just wants to see things naked. How long have you known him? If you have known him for a long time and care for each other, what you look like won't really matter. His being a man is driving his desire to see you naked.
If you think that he is ready, try suprising him sometime. You might not want to have to have sex, but you probably will want to anyways.
2007-01-08 13:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are good he won't care, sweetheart.
However, I know what it's like - I needed lots and lots of proof before I was convinced I was attractive to my partner...let him know that in advance, so he can be sure to over-communicate his approval. It doesn't sound romantic, but trust me, it works.
Depending on your relationship, you could also try going to the heart of the matter - does he really want to see you naked or does he just want sex? However, eventually this is a problem you need to face.
2007-01-07 13:31:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... he already knows you aren't skinny. Decide how much you trust him then turn down the lights and have him get naked with you. If you've been dating for a long time and you love him then do it. You have to do it sometime and chances are you are more concerned about this than he is.
2007-01-07 13:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get over it, hon. I am not all that into my body, but none of my ex's have been disappointed or grossed out. I know I don't have a stripper's or porn star's body, but I am who I am. I suggest you do a few things to loosen yourself up. Do a strip-tease for yourself in front of a mirror. Walk around your room naked every night for a week, to just get used to it. Most of all, relax, you are beautiful, no matter what you think!
2007-01-07 13:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Ammie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure if you are comfortable enough and ready to be naked in front of him it should not be a problem if you are over weight. He is like everyone else and can guess what you would look like naked, just like you can guess what others would be like. He is probably just trying to move your relationship into a more intimate one. If he is your b/f, he is already content with what you look like.
2007-01-07 13:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by tbhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be comfortable with it when you are ready. Don't let him pressure you into something you are not ready to do. But from my experience, guys are happy with naked girls, no matter what they look like. Have you been in this relationship for a long time???
2007-01-07 13:33:08 · answer #11 · answered by Bek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋