i've dyed my naturally brunette daughters hair light blonde since she was 5 now shes 11 is that sick?

Question

I just wanted her 2 make the cheerleading squad and i know they like the blondes with long hair and pale pale skin. Am I being dimented?

Answer 1

Well you will find the answer to that question in just a few short years when she becomes a self centered teenager....rambling on (showing her low self esteem) because "oh my God I broke a nail and now I look like crap"
You didnt bleach her skin too did you?
Seriously you are teaching (or have taught) your daughter at a very young age that they should change to conform so that they fit it. That is more than demented thats horribiable.

Answer 2

No, you're not demented. Dying a child's hair is not equivalent to hitting her with a wooden spoon, although hair dye can cause nasty skin rashes. I think you're trying too hard in an unproductive direction, though. What would worry me about this situation is that it tells your daughter that there's something wrong with her hair as nature made it. Why else would Mommy go out of her way to change it?

Also, I just don't think most blonde dye jobs are convincing. Unless the kid's skin tone is one that a natural blonde might have, a dye job looks just like...a dye job. The lighter the blonde, the harder it is to make it look real. Nothing looks trashier than most home-bleached platinum hair, unless it's Britney Spears with her skirt up and her panties off, trying to get out of a car while Paris Hilton smirks in the background.

Generally, it takes the right skin tone and a very careful, very well-maintained PROFESSIONAL dye job to really carry this illusion off. And the bleach is very hard on hair and often ruins the texture.

Consider all the gorgeous brunettes, like Brooke Shields and Katie Holmes and Elizabeth Hurley, and think about letting your daughter reclaim her natural color.

Answer 3

I think you have some issues that you need to work out.
Dying a young child's hair is something that is not a norm.
Hair dyes have such heavy metals, and from the way it
sounds you where also bleaching her hair.
Why on earth would you expose her to such harmful (
Ammonia, etc. ) chemicals? Not only was she breathing
them in? they where contacting her scalp and skin.
You may have just set her up for Cancer.
How do I know this? I have had lesions
on my scalp due to hair dyes, and cannot use anything
like that at all.
You say she is now 11? How does SHE feel about this?
I think it's time you asked HER and considered
her feelings.

Answer 4

Yes. It's a very unfortunate thing that your daughter will now have to feel that she's not good enough because her natural hair color is brown. She needs to know that she can do anything she wants, regardless of her hair color, eye color, height, weight. Beauty is not about what is outside (by the way, there's nothing wrong with being a brunette - I know several beautiful ones - including myself) - and you're teaching her that to be accepted she has to "fit" the norm. That's wrong.

Answer 5

She might have been a hit as a brunette. Too much time has past now to worry about it. Make sure she knows that it's fine to wear her original color no matter what anyone else might think. If her new identity is with a blonde, that's ok too.

Answer 6

sick? no.

demented? not the right word.

a bit stereotypical and unneccessary? YES.

if it's naturally brown, i'd leave it like that.
the world doesn't need more barbie lookalikes.
we could definetely use some more diversity.
and there are many, many cheerleaders that are brunettes, redheads, and raven colored hair (black haired).
i'm just surprised that you said pale, pale skin instead of tan.

Answer 7

I think dyeing your 5 yr old daughters hair blond may be a bit to much.She will grow up thinking blonds have it made in the shade.Maybe helping her with her inner self esteem and talents would be more important.

Answer 8

Today - I read an article that said science has not proven whether or not hair dye can cause cancer. I certainly would not take such a chance with my precious daughter. What in the world are you thinking? Isn't she good enough as she is?

Answer 9

Why dont you let your daughter decide if she wants to color her hair? Cheerleaders have different color hair. Just watch the NFL on sundays and check out all the brunettes and redheads.

Answer 10

I would say it is going too far. It sounds like you are trying to live through your daughter. You had your turn- now let her live her own life and make her own decisions. She may not even like the things you like but she is just afraid to tell you. I would say back off!!