If you want child support go to a juvenile court and take care of it. Other then that babe, all you can do is move on. There is no reason in this world to force someone to do something they don't want to do. This is your baby we're talking about. If he can't realize what he's missing out on then let him learn later down the line. When that baby doesn't know who he is he will feel bad. Just take care of yourself and your baby. I know it's hard because I am going through the same thing. But you love your baby and love him even more the next day. Keep your head up. When it hurts, take a good look at your son. That will give you no reason to hold your head down. Good luck to you. If you want to chat you can IM me.
2007-01-07 13:30:29
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answered by qtiequawn 3
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The child will form his/her own opinion of this person, do not try to influence the child either way. If you do, it will come back bad for you. At the same time, don't lie to the child to protect their feelings, can't be done anyway..children are far too insightful. I know it is painful too watch, but as parents or caring adults, that is really all we can do, that, and just be there for them when they need you..offer help but don't solve their problems for them.....that's where so many of these dis-functional adults came from in the first place ; from well-meaning but unknowing parents.
2007-01-07 22:00:12
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answered by territizzyb 3
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I am in the same boat. My daughter is 5. She knows she can call him or see him whenever she wants even though he doesn't initiate it. I just give her all the love I can and with the help of my family, she doesn't feel as though she is missing out on anything. I don't bug the "father". Just stay strong and don't let him think you are weak. Just be the best parent you can and show your child how strong you are.
2007-01-07 21:31:18
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answered by shorty_girl28 1
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I'd personally say f%&^k you. But we're talking about you. If you want the low life in your child's life then keep accepting what he's doing. If not then let him know that he can't come around anymore and you will see him in court. Your child doesn't need to be put through that. A child isn't stupid, they are very intelligent actually. He/She doesnt' need for the father to walk in and out of his/her life when he gets ready to. Thats something you'd have to figure out for yourself. Think whats best for your child in the long run.
2007-01-07 21:30:37
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answered by miss info 3
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I would call an attorney. If he is not supporting your family, he needs to. You did not do this alone, he had fun at the time and now there is a child in his life. He needs to take responsibility and take care of the child he created. Call your local CYS or DPW for assistance on what you need to do next. KUDOS to you for being a great Mom and raising your baby, shame on that Babies daddy!!!!
2007-01-07 21:29:29
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answered by Ang 2
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first of all, how old is the child ?? that is a hard thing to have to explain. first you have to talk to the father and explain that the child needs him to be part of it's life and if he doesn't want to be part of it then he should never come around again. but make sure you take him to court and get child support. he should at least be made help raise the child.
2007-01-07 21:31:26
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answered by babyboo 3
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After the first 30 days with no show you should have filed abandonment charges. check your state laws, and call lawyer or see if legal aide will help.
2007-01-07 21:56:36
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answered by Granny 1 7
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Some men are like that!! It sucks.
My only suggestion is go after child support. You'll be needing it if you're raising a child on your own.
2007-01-07 21:30:41
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answered by april_55720 2
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HI, IF HE IS THAT KIND OF FATHER. I WOULD MOVE A WAY. MAKE A NEW LIFE FOR ME AND MY CHILD. I WOULD TELL THEM THE TRUTH ABOUT THERE FATHER NEVER TELL THEN LIE ABOUT THERE FATHER. JUST TELL THEN THE TRUTH.
2007-01-07 23:52:49
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answered by Anonymous
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What a dead beat! Try to encourage him to spend more time with the kid.
2007-01-07 21:32:32
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answered by Xenia 3
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