he is mid fifties and I am mid forties. We have shared a wonderful three months of getting to know one another.....at this point I would like to go exclusive with him. I cleared my dating calendar several weeks ago to date only him (unbeknownst to him.)
It is my gut feeling that this request should come from the man but I'm questioning this line of thought.....perhaps it doesn't matter who brings it up? Should I let my desires be known, will it scare him off......I just want to do it right this time......yanno. We have shared only kisses so far in our relationship......I would like to explore more with him.......
2007-01-07 13:17:51 · 8 answers · asked by Janet 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him know,he might want to also but is afraid of what you might think.Some men get nervous and don't want to lose a good thing by making the wrong assumption.
2007-01-07 14:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Well, I have two conflicting answers to your question.
On one hand, I don't think a lot of men like talking about relationships. It's scary as it is, it's boring, and it can feel like entrapment. If he's that kind of man, you might be better just setting the mood (like someone else suggested) and letting him make the first move, then assuming this means exclusivity.
If you think he's hungry for committment or just good at communication, I'd go the other route, which is to tell him you'd like to go further with him...and that you'll only go further with him if you know it's exclusive. The carrot and the stick, so that he doesn't feel trapped. Basically, let him know the door is open. It's a tempting offer and it opens the door to both simple answers and lots of thought on the subject.
Good luck!
2007-01-07 13:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-30 07:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by gilbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hardly matters who brings it up...that's why all "relationships" involve two adults. Second thought, date other men. And let him know it.
It's called supply and demand. Let him know you are wanting more out of a relationship first. If he fails to respond accordingly start making dates with other men. He'll either step up to the plate or walk away - which is already the case.
But if you're with other men periodically and he really wants you in his life he'll make it happen. Especially, if you've been clear about your relationship goals upfront.
2007-01-07 13:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of u r no longer young but quite matured enough to talk about love n marriage.well,u can proceed further but better u ask his permision first 4 respect.as i always said mutual understanding n common interest r very important here.a good salary n a stable job r also important to build 4 a good family.i hope u can understand what i meant here.good luck!
best wishes.
2007-01-07 13:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter which one tells. Communication matters, verbal and nonverbal (body language, such as leaning towards him).
And if you like him enough to date only him, you should tell him.
I am 57 and would love it!
There is a lot of relationship advice on this site:
http://www.mentalhelp.net
Check it out.
Don't fail to tell him - you are both lucky!!
2007-01-07 13:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think don't you need to say too much just let your actions speak for you
2007-01-07 13:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Gavin T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. invite him over for dinner and make the place look nice to set the mood.
2007-01-07 13:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by dragonflyxfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋