Does kissing someone count as cheating?

Question

It's totally no excuse but I was drunk and he kept on pestering me and pestering for that and alot more so from what I can remember I let him kiss me, although it was over and done with in like 3 seconds and he apologised the next day.

I feel really guilty and that brief kiss just made me think of how much i love my boyfriend and i'm scared that he'll find out and think of me as a slut bag as he's away at the moment.

So does it or doesn't? should i tell him or just forget about it and concentrate on what matters most especially as the guy who kissed me i am really not attracted to in anyway.....i just didn't have the strength to get up and leave and tell him where to go

I should have pointed out that I am not the only girl he is with

Answer 1

try not to worry about what people think esp. in this kind of situation. reputation is everything and i think if you had just looked at him and said really sweet like, "all this is not appropriate" and got up and walked away, the next time he saw you he would probably think there goes a real lady. thats what you want men to think of you always no exception! no it was not really cheating i just think you don't want to be disliked but in a situation like this, who cares if he likes you HE KNOWS he is doing wrong and do not play into his belt notches.

Answer 2

Yes, it's cheating. Wouldn't you consider it to be cheating if you found out that your boyfriend had kissed another girl?

As to whether or not you should tell him, that's your own personal choice. Is there a chance that someone else could tell him? If so, I think you should beat it to the punch and tell him yourself. If you don't and he finds out, he may be even more angry because then he'll know that not only did you kiss someone else, but you kept that information from him. That would almost certainly end the relationship.

From now on, use more self-control. Drinking excessively is not an excuse for bad behavior. You had the choice not to drink and you had the choice not to kiss someone. You chose wrong both times. Think about how you would feel if the situation were reversed and it was your boyfriend drinking too much and kissing other girls.

Answer 3

Tough answer based on the circumstances. But, I would say yes. However, you will want to do a few things to clear your conscience. First, speak to the guy who kissed you and let him know that it's bothering you and that you deeply regret what happened. Explain that you may have been caught up in the moment and that you love your boy friend. Once that is cleared up, you will still need to clear the air with your boyfriend. Remember, no relationship is true unless there is respect and trust between both people. How would you want him to act if this happened with him and another woman? Once he returns find the right time for this sensitive topic. Deal with both issues in person. If your boy friend loves you he will understand and you will get through this issue. However, there is definitely the chance that this will end your relationship. However, only the strength of your relationship will tell.

Answer 4

Yes, that was cheating. IMO, any sort of intimate contact is cheating.

And, I don't think you should tell him. What purpose will it serve to tell him beside piss him off really bad or get that other guy beat (unless that is what you want)?

It was a mistake and you were drunk so it doesn't sound like an ongoing threat. Now if you had feelings for this other guy and kissed him, then you should definately tell since change / clarification / action is warranted and needed.

Otherwise, no changes are necessary so there is no need / purpose in telling him.

Next time, no drinking around the other guy.

Answer 5

Sounds great for you to say, "I was drunk" and he kept on pestering....

Cheating comes from taking that leap and following that pickled reasoning that comes from booze well past that line that you promised yourself you would never cross.

Some will say don't say a word, but you do need to share with him what occurred, because you will be carrying it in your heart and stunt your relationship. Something that comes from these so called innocent lapses in judgment, remember you can now worry if he would do that to you, after all, it was so easy to slip....

Why not put a cork in the bottle and not waste your life as it dribbles down the drain, there is soooooooo much more to living.

Answer 6

Anything that you do with another person that takes away from your relationship is cheating, so yes, kissing someone else is cheating. Your boyfriend has the right to know, as you would should he do the same thing. The relationship involves the both of you and he should get to decide how he wishes to react to this and not have you decide for him.

Answer 7

Yes it's cheating. He'll probably take it to the next level and say if you were drunk and the guy kept pestering you to have sex you'd probably do that too. Don't tell him if he won't find out from someone else. If he might, come clean and be ready for the consequences.

Answer 8

Cheating. If I were you I would tell him before someone else got the chance. Either way, it's not gonna be pretty but I'm sure he would rather hear the story from you than him, right? Also, stop having parties while your man is away. That would solve alot right there.

Answer 9

Yes, kisses are the equal to a romantic gesture, that would mean he loves the other person and you cannot love more than 1 person in a romantic fashion. You can love them as a friend or family member, but not as a life partner.

Answer 10

Well cheating is anything that you would feel uncomfortable doing in front of your significant other. If you can't kiss another guy in front of your boyfriend.....Well you should get the message.


Whether or not you tell your boyfriend about the kiss is your decision to make.