The second marriage will wipe him out financially and mentally.
2007-01-07 13:04:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can't.
He has to see the problem on his own.
But, you can tell him how you feel and let him decide.
Support him either way.
And maybe suggest a pre-nup, if it is warranted.
2007-01-07 13:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by LostVega$ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being the woman my husband's family thought would destroy, i feel i should answer your question. Leave him alone because she may be the best thing to happen to him. Like I said my in laws swore we would never make it. 20 years later we are doing better than ever. My hubby and I have a weird relationship t, so most people say. We do things together like going out on dates, partying the normal things. But yet we both go out with our friends and do our own thing. I have gone away on vacation for weeks at a time with friends as he has as well. The family think this is wrong . Leave your brother alone and try to get t know his new wife as best as you can. We all have out faults and our spouse learns to live with them. Maybe your brother loves his soon to be new wife for the reasons everybody else dislike her for. My hubby loves my fiestyness and the fact i speak my mind. Bare with him I am sure he will love you more for being on his side and giving her a chance to prove herself.
2007-01-07 13:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really can't when someone in love they have blinders on. You can try talking to him seriously and say i'll only say this once to you brother but i feel you should know something then lay your cards on the table and how you feel and what you see this woman is doing to him. and hope he see's it but i doubt it normally when in love they dont' see the same things as someone outside the picture see's. if he's still going to go through with it and you sense this woman is after his money or using him at least get him to get a prenup. best way you can save your brother from heartache when the times come yes he'll lose the woman but at least he wont' lose his shirt from this kind of woman.
good luck
2007-01-07 13:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 08:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by kostyk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He is his own man and will make his successes and failures without your approval.
My brother's first marriage was a nightmare. My mother, father, and myself went to his wedding as if it was a funeral. There was nothing to celebrate, other than my brother making another terrible life choice. (which was a habit) It ended w/ in 4 years.
2007-01-07 13:42:27 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried and tried over and over again about what the situation will do to him then i am sorry to tell you there is no way you can unless you kidnap him until he realizes you were right. But otherwise he wants to be with that girl and you have to let him see it for himself. Make sure you let him know you will support him and you will be there for him when he needs you.
2007-01-07 13:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by latinlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try to talk to your brother and let him know that you are concerned, but ultimately it is his decision. Trying to talk him out of marrage might create a rift between the two of you. It is hard to see someone you care about make a wrong decision but it is their wrong decision to make.
2007-01-07 13:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't. I know this will hurt you (and him in the long run) but he has to learn from his own mistakes. You could say anything you wanted to say to him and her and none of will stop him from wanting to marry her. I'm stuck in the same situation.
2007-01-07 13:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by curiousgurl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. A bad relationship can be warned, but in the end the person will have to see it themselves. All you can do is give him the support he'll need.
Push him for a prenup, maybe.
2007-01-07 22:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by diegomcnamara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are close, you can gently tell him your concerns. Make sure he knows its out of love. Don't be too harsh when speaking about the person he loves, though. Then butt out! and pray for him. It truly may work! Good luck!
2007-01-07 13:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by jean l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋