Why a woman acts offended when you tell her you've fallen in love with her?

Question

I've never understood that. Can't they feel at least a bit flattered?

Whenever I've told a girl (even a friend) that I had feelings for her, her reaction has always been to stop talking to me. Sometimes it even ended our friendship (if we had one to begin with).

Is it so insulting to be loved? Is having strong feelings toward someone such an unberable affront?

And no, I'm not a teenager, I'm in my late 30s, and these women are in their late 30s as well.

I take my time, and I'm quite capable of friendship with them.

I guess no woman is attracted to me, and that's it.

Tough luck, but one has to learn to live alone, if one must.

Sloppy Joe, you may be right. I'm very short, and I've noticed women don't like being asked out by short men.

Perhaps that's it.

As for the rest, I'm quite a normal guy, not a freak: I know how to treat people, and I'm socially adept. My hygiene is flawless.

Answer 1

no no no hun let me tell you the real reason... and i know fot 2 main reasons 1) im a female 2) its happened to me.
okay. rule number one NEVER...EVER...EVER. say you love a woman to early in a realtionship she begins to beleive your a liar, you just want her body or your crazy. why we think like that i have no clue we are just programed to sometimes over analyze and its out sheild so we wont get hurt easily.

rule two. If its your FIRST time saying it dont say it right after something intamite like a kiss. wait for the perfect moment. girls love it when your romantic.

~we chould be flattered but make sure you feel that way. And take her emotions into consideration and dont pop the love question on her until therealtionship is into gear and she feels it.

~you may say, how do i know when shes in love with me... she'll tell you and she'll do little things to hint it like giving you a massage, making you breakfast all the things you want wihtout her asking.

~ if you still dont know, one romantic kiss can say it all i mean a real kiss not like lets get busy, but show her you love her without implying sex and love will follow.

~if none of this works, she dosent love you and you deserve better.

good luck hun

Answer 2

He's the king of kings and a living legend … in his own mind. Unfortunately, he's got a hair trigger ego that fires off tantrums if his authority is unduly challenged. Cure: Listen to his self-centered rants and stories with interest, as they can be really fascinating. But don't get sucked up into the drama of arguing him down. You're probably right about whatever it is, but it's best for him to discover that on his own.

Answer 3

A few ideas here:
-You could be hidiously grotesk, and they are insulted that you think you could obtain a woman like them.
-You don't know them well enough to be in love with them. You can't love a person because of how they look.
-Usually, inorder to fall in love with someone, you have to interact with them on a regular basis... picking up her garbage or bagging her groceries do not count.
-You could have very bad personal higiene. Change your deoderant and bathe more often than you normaly would.
-Are they single or are they in relationships with other men?

It is not insulting to be loved, but it seems to be insulting to be loved by you. You are doing something wrong, find out what it is and fix it.

Don't give up. Date some women who aren't so attractive, build up your confidence that way. Also, don't come on strong... ever! If you do, girls know that they can do better than you. Just get some experience anyway you can. I'm sure you can learn enough to get buy. Good luck!

Answer 4

no doubt u r late 30s,but i think u r still a small kid--inmatured.u can't simply approach any woman n ask 4 marriage,she w'd think u r crazy mad fellow.u must at first go with a girl u r interested,try to build up relationship 4 some time n maintain.after a few mth or 1-2 yr,u must hint her about marriage n wait 4 her response.if she accepts u it's okay,if not u still have to wait 4 it patiently.on top of that,u should have a good income n a stable job capable of supporting a family.these r my advices.good luck!

best wishes.

Answer 5

It sounds as if you're falling in love with the wrong women.
Do you not have an emotionally intimate relationship with them before this happens? If it's coming as a complete surprise to them, it might be inappropriate. You can't be truly in love with someone you aren't close to in that way.

Better to not say anything, and let a relationshp grow and develop until you know she feels the same before you confess your feelings.

I had a man tell me he had feelings for me - on our first date - and I admit I was a little dismayed. He didn't even know me yet!

Answer 6

Well, you either proposed yourself like just a friend at first, and then they thought you were just trying a way into their knick-knacks, OR they know you already told someone else and they feel like just another attempt (you mention more than one woman you told this to).

OR, they showed you no sentimental interest ever, and felt completely mistified and misunderstood by your tasteless, beacuse unmotivated and untimely, advances.

Answer 7

It is flattering, even if we are not interested. I would say that these women are inexperienced and don't know what else to do. It surely is not the way to handle the situation. Not every woman is like this.

Answer 8

She Obviously Hasn't Fallen In Love With You....

Answer 9

Not all women will act this way.

How long do you know these ladies? If you didn't know them that long; shocking is one of the reactions. They don't want to lead you on so they'd rather end it this way (stay away from you).

Answer 10

love is a strong bond between two people..you have to be careful with that one....make sure you know the other person feels the same...dont just say it..you know? girls dont like that...its a scary thought..being in love..it means committment..settling down AHH