Do I tell him about what happened while we were broken up for a year?

Question

I was with my boyfriend for 2 years when he broke up with me, we even had lived together for a \while, i was distraught everything had always been fine between us. well after we broke up i had a couple one time yet protected sexual encounters. we were broken up for almost a year. And now we are working things out. He asked me if i had been with anyone else since him and i only told him one, and explained to him that i didnt mean anything because i would never feel about anybody the way i felt about him, which is the truth, but he was still really hurt, infact i was really hurt and ashamed by my own actions, and have infact put it behind me, and vowed to not make such mistakes in the future, and wasnt brought back up until now. But still do i need to tell him about anyone else?

Also, while we were broke up a couple times i wrote him letters and told him i wanted to be with him, and i loved him, and i know he hasnt been with anyone since we broke up, thats just the kind of guy he is.

Answer 1

I'm sorry I can't relate at all. You apologized for living your life when you two were NOT in a relationship. That makes no sense to me. None.

Moving on. No, don't tell him about anyone else. Do however get tested at a clinic for ALL STDs. If he brings it up again say, "I told you about that one guy, but to be sure that I was safe to continue with a relationship with you I want you to know I got tested. I am completely free of all STDs. I love you and I don't want anything to come in the way of this relationship."

Answer 2

If he asked you that then tell him that you met other people when you were out. If he asks you if you had sex with them say "maybe" and let him guess-that way he values you more. Its his fault for not being with you. He would be a complete coward for asking you that since he knows that you and him were free. There was no need for you to ask him about his 1 year freedom. What matters is now. If he was hurt about that then maybe you need someone that is emotionally strong. Since you're back together, now you should be responsible to the relationship since it sounds like you really care for him.
I think you need a MAN that does not need constant reassurance.

Answer 3

you vowed to never repeat such mistakes again?

so if he decides to dump you again then you are just going to stand there and wait hoping he will magically return one day, such a tragic waste

maybe thats a good thing though, i would hate to see some guy get hurt because you are not really into a relationship because you are pining over some dick that hurt you a long time ago

Answer 4

look he has no business over what happenned during the year after he left you. if you have been together, then it would be bad.

so he has no right to be hurt. can you be sure that he's never been with other girls? to me that's plain selfishness.

you can choose to tell him about all the guys you dated during the break up. but it is not neccessary. the minute he broke up with you, he has already given up whatever rights that you have allowed him to have over you. if what happened during that year would matter to him now that you are trying to get together again, i'm sorry but i think you have to consider not getting back with him anymore.

Answer 5

No you were broken up so anything you did can not be used against you. Breathe, and relax. Work on the future, don't dwell on the past.

Answer 6

no i think you shouldn't, you were broken up back then, and if your not pregnant with your previous partnert during that time, and if you don't have any deseases, it really isn't his business, where was the guarantee that you would get back together? people move on and life new lives, it's natural

Answer 7

If You guys broke up then no he really doesn't need to know

Answer 8

no you don't, he broke up with you in the first place and you
weren't together for a year , so i wouldn't tell him anything else.

Answer 9

Listen to this girl ,,,, According to what you've said ,,,, He's the one that broke up with you so anything that took place after that in your life IS NONE OF HIS BUSINESS ,,,, That's the bottom line ,,,, End of stroy ,,,, And you have no business feeling hurt or ashamed of what you did either and you shouldn't let him know even if you do feel that way ,,,, You didn't mention it but did you ask him if HE was with anyone during that time ? He probably was and was probably with allot of them no matter what his answer would be to that question,,,, You said he felt hurt at what you admitted to him ,,,, Evidently he expected you to remain celebate and waiting for him dutifully while he went out and screwed around ,,,, Well he has no business or right to feel anything ,,,, He's the one that caused this chain of events to occur after he broke up with you ,,,, THIS GUY IS A TOTAL JERK ,,,, He's selfish and self centered ,,,, He's ignorant ,,,, abusive ,,,, immature ,,,, and just an all around asss hole ,,,, Who does he think he is anyway ,,,, You should have told him that you've been having a wonderful time and you owe him a vote of thanks for him providing you with the opportunity to see the world and live it up ,,,, I think anyone reading this answer would agree with me ,,,, He has no right to put you through a guilt trip at all ,,,, You said he broke up with you ,,,,,, Well think about it seriously ,,,, He broke up with you ,,,,, You should keep it that way ,,,, He probably broke up with you because he thought he saw greener pastures some where else ,,,, so to speak ,,,, but he couldn't go exploring while he still had you around his neck so the only way to rememdy that problem was to get rid of you to soothe his own guilt feelings ,,,, He probably found out that what he saw wasn't really all that great so now all of a sudden he's back ,,,, He's had his play time and now he wants you back again and expecting everything to just go back to the way it was before he started all of the crap ,,,, And he probably thinks you are stupid enough to fall for his stories but to help things along he puts you through a guilt trip too ,,,, I'll tell you this ,,,, If he had found something he thought was better,,,, Then he wouldn't be wanting to come back to you now ,,,, Thinking about what he's done to you pisses me off to no end ,,,,He's started this whole chain of events and he's trying to put YOU through a guilt trip ? Give me a break ,,,, He had no right to expect you to remain celebate after he let you go because your life was your own after that ,,,,, He broke up with you ,,,,, KEEP IT THAT WAY ,,,, He's trying to make a fool out of you and that should piss you off ,,,,He thinks you are stupid and he WOULD be making a fool of you if you did deside to go back to him ,,,,Probably everyone else but you sees this ,,,, You might still have feelings for him but you shouldn't let him know that and there is principle involved here too you know and something else besides ,,,, You don't know who he's been with or how many ,,,, You can't trust him or what he says ,,,,, They have diseases out there they don't even have names for yet let alone a cure ,,,, Do you want to put your health at risk too ????,,,,, You don't need this crap and that's all he's giving you and trying to make you feel guilty on top of it ,,,, You are better than that and you deserve better ,,,, Make him realize that he's made a terrible mistake ,,,,, Stick to your guns not matter what he tells or what he does ,,,,, Guys are good actors too you know ,,,, up to and including tears ,,,, He broke it off with you ,,,,, Keep it that way and don't let him fool you or change your mind ,,,, There are allot of fish in the pond ,,,, you don't need this guy at all ,,,, You'd be better off with a broken leg ,,,, You don't or wouldn't have a relationship with him ,,,, He's a jerk ,,,, A relationship should be fun and exciting not what you have with this self centered clown ,,,, So go fishing ,,,, Find some one that is fun to be with and will treat you the way you should be treated ,,,,,, You deserve it ,,,, They are out there ,,,, all you have to do is find them ,,,,, Some of them would fit the bill so to speak and come trouble and problem free besides ,,,, Tell this guy to take a long walk off of a short pier ,,,, You have no guarantee if you went back to him that he wouldn't do the same thing all over again later on when he noticed something or someone more interesting to him ,,,, He's done it once to you already ,,,, Don't give him a chance to do it to you a second time no matter what feelings you have for him ,,,,, There's an old saying that goes " Fool me once shame on you ,,,, But fool me twice ,,,, Shame on me " ,,,,Stop thinking about him and start thinking about yourself ,,,, Stand up for yourself and let him know where he's at ,,,, I think anyone reading this would agree ,,,, Let him wollow in his own self pitty or find someone elses shoulder to cry on ,,,, He's the one that made the mistake not you ,,,, He's the one that should be feeling guilty not you ,,,, He's the one that should be on his belly crawling to you not the other way around ,,,, You are the important one here not him so get it done and get it done as quickly as you can ,,,,, The quicker you get it over with the better it's going to be for you and the quicker you can move on with your life ,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,

Answer 10

the past is the past! to me if he even asked in the first place was to set you up so he could make you feel guilty.you weren't together at the time so you shouldn't feel bad.