what i am wondering is does someone always need to go counseling to past something like this? Will there always be that insecurity and jeasousy with the opposite sex?
2007-01-07 12:38:57 · 7 answers · asked by Lissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Concealing wouldn't hurt anything ,But if you will turn to the Lord he will help you through anything if you believe. He helps me through every day of my life I would be lost without him and so is everybody that doesn't know him. Believe me he will never leave you.
2007-01-07 12:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I certainly cannot speak for all abandoned babies, I can speak for myself. I was abandoned as a baby in Taiwan who was found in a telephone booth. I lived in an orphanage for the next 18 months until I was adopted by an American family.
Presumably I was abandoned due to having congenital birth defects. Before I turned 18 I already had undergone over 25 surgeries to correct these problems. One reason I may have been abandoned was because the Taiwanese medical care would not have kept me alive.
After being adopted into an American family, even though I was always in and out of the hospital and underwent years of speech therapy, I always felt lucky to be surrounded by friends throughout my childhood. At 16 I started college; before I turned 21 I was working as a chemical engineer. Now 25, I am one year away from finishing a Ph.D. in chemical engineering.
I have survived abandonment and abuse, and have never had any difficulty in maintaining normal relationships with peers, co-workers, or supervisors of either gender. I have been to counseling, but the abandonment was a minor cause. Yes, I do get depressed about not knowing the true identity of my birthparents (especially around my birthday) but I also count my blessings for being alive today. Had I not been abandoned, had I not been able to receive the superior medical care in America, I would likely not be alive today.
I have no insecurity or jealousy with the opposite sex, nor do I harbor bitterness towards my birth parents (especially my birth mother) for having to make what surely was a heartbreaking decision - keep a child likely to die because of unavailable medical care, or abandon it with no guarantee that the child would survive.
I am very happy to be alive and am grateful to so many people who have guided and helped me become the person I am today.
2007-01-09 15:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counselling helps a lot. The person best be surrounded by family and people who loves her and truly care about her to built up hes tust again. It takes time and you forgive but you wont forget, but yes, you can put it behind you and have a happy life...
2007-01-07 12:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling is an important part of you healing but YES you can be normal and have a normal and healthy relationship but it will take a lot of work.
2007-01-07 12:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling could help .... but the answer to your question is yes yes yse yes yes yes people that say no i believe its a cop out ps describe normal lol lol lol
2007-01-07 12:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by wayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The need consoling ALWAYS. Especialy about getting raped, that experience is one that is the most terrifying because all your control is taken away. THEY NEED COUNSOLING.
2007-01-07 12:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how it effects you
2007-01-07 12:42:24 · answer #7 · answered by angelbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋