My dad have a mistress in Venezuela and I just found out he already have 2 sons to her. he make quit supporting me in college because he said that he was not able to save money because his salary was not enough to cure his diabetes but I found out the truth. he send remittance to his 2nd family so my half brother can enter a law school while the other one can have a modeling career. my Mother and sisters where hurt that my dad cheated. My dad is a chef on an oil tanker that travels around the world and with that he mange to have a mistress. I felt insulted and because he stopped supporting me because he thinks that his Venezuelan sons are better than me.
2007-01-07 12:36:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off, I'm sorry about that...it doesn't sound like a pleasant situation.
Secondly I can't personally say how I would react (I have three half-siblings but they are all legitimate from my fathers first wife). He on the other hand has several half-siblings from my grandfathers mistresses.
I know he was upset, but my grandfather was equally involved in all of his childrens lives (my father and uncle, a daughter from a mistress he had in Korea during the korean war, and at least one son from a mistress here in our hometown). He wasn't there for any of his kids at all.
I think it is unfair for him to step back from his "first family' in order to support a family he has somewhere else, but I can imagine that it is hard for him to know what to do (even it was his mistake that created the mess for your family).
I don't blame you (or anyone else in your family for being upset). I can't imagine how horrible that would make me feel, or how I would handle it.
2007-01-07 12:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Courtlyn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I found out I had a half-brother who was 17 when I was about 10. He lived with us briefly. It was not like having another brother because he wasn't there long enough to really fit in. I'm sure he felt really awkward, too. I tried really hard to keep in contact with him and sent his kids stuff when I was in college, but never once heard back from him or his wife. When I was in my mid-20's I saw him a few times and his kids, about 10 and 11 then, came to stay with my folks a few weeks each summer, and I did my best to spend time with the two of them, but they never called me aunt and never seemed to attach to me - I don't know why. I think my half-brother just wanted a relationship with our dad, and so did his 2 kids. I didn't see him or the kids for the next 15 yrs then he died suddenly a few years ago, but it wasn't like losing a brother.
2007-01-07 21:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out I have an older half sister and a younger half sister. I don't have anything to do w/ them, but not by choice. "Our father" doesn't want to upset my life, by coming into it at such a late date. But I think it's more he doesn't want to upset his life. My opinion of your situation is, if you want to be w/ them, then extend an invitation, if they don't want to establish a relationship, that's their prerogative. But you don't have to be as s**ty as your dad seems to be. Try to be the mature one in the whole dang mess. Good luck!!
2007-01-07 20:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got three of them! That just means more brothers and sisters, its cool with me :D Although my siblings are about 20 or more years older than me -.-
2007-01-07 20:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i found out i had other sibling i was upset and my real brother went and seen about him and he wanted nothing to do with us . i would try to see if the other siblings wanted to meat you and if they did great and if they din't then i would leave them alone . it should hurt your dad chose other one over you though i would tell dad he needs to choose who he wanted. make your dad hurt a little bit
2007-01-07 20:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN'T BLAME YOUR HALF SIBLINGS. ITS NOT THEIR FAULT THAT YOUR DAD CHEATED ON YOUR MOM. MAYBE THEY STILL DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU AND YOUR SISTERS, BUT CONTACT THEM AND MEET THEM. WHO KNOWS YOU MIGHT JUST GET ALONG. GIVE IT A TRY. AS FOR YOUR DAD WELL YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HIM. GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-07 20:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by misty blue 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
nothing i know how you feel having hate takes to much live as if they were never there
2007-01-07 20:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by angelbaby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would like to meet them
2007-01-07 20:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by david o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you, i would feel betrayed. wow how selfish of him
2007-01-07 20:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
respect them for who they are.
2007-01-07 22:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by the BABY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋