My oldest daughter(2 years old) has recently become VERY jealouse of my son(12 months). I can't spend every moment with them. They have to go to daycare while I'm at school and I have to get ready for the 3rd baby. I'm only 14 weeks now. What fun things can I do with them before they both get all mad.
2007-01-07 12:32:10 · 12 answers · asked by OH MY GOD IT'S HER 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Also before anyone passes judgement I am still with their father we are married and live in our OWN house. I am not on welfare and my parents do not look after our children. We both work and both are still in school and do plan to go to college. My kids recieve what they need so no judgment passing please. Thank you.
2007-01-07 12:33:42 · update #1
Messed up title.
2 kids with 3rd on the way oldest daughter...?
2007-01-07 12:34:39 · update #2
OMG where did 14 weeks come from?!? I'm 32 weeks.
2007-01-07 12:45:59 · update #3
Fun things for preschoolers and toddlers:
Mopping/scrubbing/"painting"(with paintbrushes and soapy water)the floor. To music or singing
Washing the windows
Helping cook dinner (for the 2yr old)
setting the table
Playdoh in the kitchen floor (not during meal prep) (clean the floor first)
Fingerpainting on the porch (on paper...outside...)
I have a 3yr old and she loves this stuff. But I have to make it fun or give her incentive. Music is a great way to keep her occupied because she loves to dance.
2007-01-07 12:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get your daughter out every now and then and spend some time alone with her, just girl time. Go to the park or something fun like that. By the way, I know that things must be hard for you, but I would like to say good for you that you are making it independently. It wasnt long ago that it was perfectly normal for girls to get married at 13-14 years old and start having children at 15-16.
2007-01-07 12:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by reconnermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am proud of you! i am pregnant with number 4, (had my oldest daughter when I was 18) I found it hard at that age.
Right now my youngest just turned 1 and I am 16 weeks pregnant with our last child. I ask myself every day how I am going to be abe to keep the jealousy down once the new baby arrives. I agree that you should try to spend individual time with each of your children, especially the oldest one, because she will really cherish the time alone with you. Also if you involve her with helping with her younger brother and the new baby, she will become less jealous...let her get their diapers and wipes for bum changes, find baby's soother, get mommy a blanket for the baby, etc...
2007-01-07 13:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by blue_eyes_1_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just too young to understand. Children that age do not get it. That is why I waited, my children were all 5 years apart, they got time with me alone. No idea what you could do. I wish you luck though when this last one shows up, 3 kids, 3 years and under...good grief, don't forget to fit in a little time at least once a month that is just for you. Or you won't be doing your children any good. GOOD LUCK:)
2007-01-07 12:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important for each child to have alone time with each parent. Switch off with your husband and do something as simple as reading a book or an hour at the park. Libraries have story time or even lunch at mc donalds is good.
In addintion to 1 on 1 time, make sure your family has group play. At such a young age, it doesn't matter what fun things you do as long as you do it together. Sing songs, read books, play with their toys with them, color, they love to help you clean at that age.
you sound like you have things figured out pretty well, don't lose sight of your dreams, it is totally possible to achieve.
Stay strong!!
2007-01-07 13:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Brigitte C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend one on one time with each child so they feel special. Try having the 2 year old do "grown up" things by asking to help you clean (not really clean, but let her think she's helping by wiping the table, etc). Tell her how much she is helping and you are proud of what a big girl she is!
Re: your additional comments... it sounds like you are judging parents who are on welfare, or whose parents help out, or stay-at-home parents... consider how you say things if you don't want to be judged. (Not trying to be mean!)
2007-01-07 13:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by kiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be one of those spells that they go thru. Go to the park, McDonalds Play Park is something that you can do and get them fed also(If you are getting something to eat). Play dates with other kids. Going outside to walk and explore around. Have little hunts to find special things. Let them have some different to do that they think is fun. Mine are little momma's cleaning and all that!
2007-01-07 13:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by pullersgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely if this helps...i'm a guy, 16, and 2 of my exes were pregnant yet both miscarried paradoxically. I had some different exes that claimed they were pregnant yet extremely wern't. i'm the in consumer-friendly words toddler from my father and mom. So yeah it hit them undesirable with me being their in consumer-friendly words toddler, comming to all of them those cases saying this woman or that woman may be pregnant. unhappy section is, after awhile they were already searching ahead to me to assert it after I ask might want to we sit down and communicate. they say I positioned them by way of hell...
2016-12-28 08:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by daloris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation, mine are all 22months apart, and go to daycare, it is tough...but I try to have a mommy day with my oldes who is five we do it about every month, it just gives us time to do stuff by ourselves one on one, I also have her help me fold towels and set the table it makes her feel like she has a special job, they still fight but it eases the tesion.
2007-01-07 12:36:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids responded the best by having one on one time. If you both regularly take turns giving each of them all of your attention, that should make a difference.
2007-01-07 13:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋