her parents are well off and very controlling, need to know how to cope with them and make sure that my fiance and i can get out there in the real world. without being called on to do things their way.
2007-01-07 12:30:44 · 13 answers · asked by nstanza91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Stand up to them and say "thank you for the offer and/or advice which is good, but my fiance/wife and I decided to do it this way. I will keep your views just incase we might need to do it that way"
Pretty much, gain control back of the issue.
You and your wife need to work as a team. She can't be afraid to stand up to herself to her parents while you are trying to do it. It won't work. Both have to work at it together.
You will need help here and there; however, limit the help as can.
After all, they might just be trying to help and their actions seems alittle too much than what you expect.
2007-01-07 12:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance can't think for herself by now, she probably never will and the inlaws will be in your marriage. You need to have a heart to heart talk with her and let her know just how you feel. If you still decide to marry her then the only other thing to do is move far, far away from the parents. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-07 21:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditto what steffers said - stay independent, pay your own way, and be sure that youstay that way for several years at least, so that they can finally learn to not meddle. That might mean not having kids until you're financially able for your wife to take 6 months off from work. One other thing you might consider is moving well away from them - far enough that it's inconvenient or impossible for them to just drop by. For me, that would mean at least 100 miles, but you'll have to decide how far is enough for yourself.
2007-01-07 20:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let your fiance know how you feel, then sit down together with them, and tell them what you think. Of course, if they are paying for your wedding, wait until that's over! Believe me, that's not a price you want to pay all on your own if you don't have to!
2007-01-07 20:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by sfb_wolfpack_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiance need to sit and discuss how you feel about the situation she might feel the same and isn't sure how to approach it. Good luck, God bless and congrats on the wedding i am planning one myself right now it is in june.
2007-01-07 23:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for it yourself. Or decide what you can let them control, and have them pay for that specific item. (Like flowers - they pay - and you can live with their control over it).
Otherwise, you are truly going to have to judge how your financee responds and handles the situation. This could be an insight to your future.
Remember - they are going to see your kids as THEIR grand-kids. Will your future wife strong enough to stand up to them?
2007-01-07 20:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your both grown and can make your own decisions tell them they need to back off and give you guys some space you can listen to there suggestions but the final say is up to you both
2007-01-07 20:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by hallowsevenight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job that will make you live far enough from them or at least make you too exhausted to visit them. my brother in law use this as reason to stay away from us LOL
2007-01-07 23:58:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill them (I'm kidding)
don't take or borrow any money from them.
limit communication, set boundaries, you both have to agree to this for this to work (that includes you both not sharing or airing your dirty landry with the inlaws...or anyone else...
2007-01-07 20:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simple say yes dont argue
then do what you want
if they call you on it apologise and keep doing what you want
you cant win the argument so dont argue, but do what you want
2007-01-07 20:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋