my aunt just found out ,she don't have much time left.She has Lukimia. Right now she can go places,she is not stuck to her bed.The dr. said she don't have much time.Could you please give me idears how to make her last days happy?
2007-01-07 12:20:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
DO AS MUCH AS SHE WANTS. WHY DON'T YOU ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS TO DO. AND TELL AND SHOW HER HOW MUCH SHE IS LOVED. TAKE HER TO THE MOVIES, OUT TO EAT, IF SHE LIKES BINGO, TAKE HER THERE. I'M REALLY SORRY FOR WHAT IS HAPPENING TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. IT MUST BE REALLY HARD. AND WHAT FOGGY SAID IS TRUE,
2007-01-07 12:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maim or sir, don't go to like a Six Flag, Mall, or baseball game because I think it would be better if the family just sits and talk about all the old times your family, you and your aunt had together. And even if it might annoy you, say a time when you was stupid in some way that made you embarrassed and made your aunt laugh. And pretend to laugh with her so she will feel happy and try to make her remember her past before she dies. Let her forget what is going to happen to her and let her remember the past and try not to get in a fight while talking to her. Hopes it works out well...
Don't get all upset that you start doing drugs. Their not good for you. And don't go grief-ing because I would have been there to help but I am not so keep living a heathy and happy life!
( : Keep smiling because it will make you feel good!(tell your aunt about this smiling thing because it might make her feel good)
2007-01-07 20:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by adopted311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same situation, my aunt had a stroke and they found a tumor in her brain. Now the cancer is all over.
What helps the most is that the family is consistantly by her side, of course it is difficult for her to sleep knowing her fate, so a family member is with her even at night so she can have someone to talk to. Of course the busier they keep her, the less time she has to think. Ask your aunt, what she wants to see, i.e. the ocean, Rome, Hawaii, etc. The excitement of a trip, might keep her mind busy too. Hopefully your aunt is at home, cause the familiarity of home, i.e. pets, help too. My aunt talked alot about missing her cat while in the hsp. It is a difficult time, but you have to keep your chin up and learn that life is short, live it now and don't put it off.
2007-01-07 20:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by rooting4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about this...it's not easy knowing a loved one doesn't have much time left. I've been through his myself.
Take her to some of her favorite places! Maybe she likes the ocean, or lake or something...get her out in the fresh air if you can, it will make her feel better than being cooped up in the house or hospital. Take her to a fancy restaurant, or a movie, or both! :) Just ask her what her favorite things are and make them happen.
Good luck.
2007-01-07 20:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by Huliganjetta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Spend as much time as you can with her and make sure it is quality time. Ask her what some of her wishes are and attempt to fulfill them if you can. Other friends and family should do the same. Fill her days with lots of love and happiness. At the end spend quiet time with her, read to her, if she likes music play her favorites, etc. Is she religious? If so you can read the bible to her. Just being with her will be comforting to her.
2007-01-07 20:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by sunshinesue_1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This above all does she know Jesus as her Savior! Just be with her spending time together is more important than anything. Try taking her to funny movies so she will smile keep her interest up and remind her that it isn't over until our Lord and Savior says it's over. Not the doctors. Have fun and let her talk about old times people love that it's like they can leave a piece of them selves with the ones whom they love. God Bless You All.
2007-01-07 20:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take her wherever she wants to go, to see and do something she never had the time or money to do, and especially if she's getting on with years, talk about the great memories of her past.
Just having you near her will be a great way to show her how much you valued her life near yours.
All the best to you.
2007-01-07 20:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by sandwich 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to make sure people she cares about spend a lot of time with her. This could be family and old friends. In person or on the phone.
2007-01-07 20:22:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of things does she enjoy?? Try making an itinerary around things the she likes to do. If she likes to travel then take her someplace she has never been, (ask the dr first). If she likes animals take her to the zoo. And so on and so forth. Let her decide what, you decide how.
2007-01-07 20:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pictures are nice to share with her and you can reminisce about the good old days. If you have a tape recorder you can ask her questions about her childhood. Talk about things that will put a smile on her face.
Let her direct the conversation and what she wants to talk about.
2007-01-07 20:26:14 · answer #10 · answered by D S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you could take her to her favorite band's concert...you could get a ride in a limo...go shopping...w/e she wants to do....have her spend time with her best friends...and dont forget...that includes u too...you could stay at home....watch ure's and her favorite movies.....go out to dinner with some of her friendz and u........u could do a little reunion type thing...with all of her good friendz/old friendz and her/your family....and remember.....charish everyday and every memory that you have, for it may be your last....and dont forget....take as many pictures as you can.....so that u'll never forget.....(as hard as u try....u'll never forget........)and I'm sorry that your aunt has Lukimia....just make the best of the last days that you have with her.....send her my best wishes....
Yours Truly,
~Miley~
2007-01-07 20:31:13 · answer #11 · answered by alli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋