What are your views on sex before marriage?

Question

I’m a guy saving my first time for someone very special and waiting till marriage to lose my virginity. Is anything wrong with me wanting this? Especially in today’s society where people think it is normal to have sex before marriage. I am not saying nothing is wrong with it, it just isn’t me. And before you say it I am not religious. I just believe in being sensible. Also is it worth it in the end to wait till marriage?

Answer 1

You have to do whats right for you.

Answer 2

I dont think theres anything wrong with you doing this,it worked for previous generations & will make it special 4 u & ur wife.The only thing i would consider is that where in the past marriage was 4ever & people worked on their relationdships no matter what in this day & age if sexually u didnt seem compatible at 1st not every1 would work on the relationship enough 2 make it work.Its 2 socially acceptable to get divorced so people dont work on marriage as much & the way they should,so if your sex life wasnt as good as what ur partner exspected they may not work with u as much as they should when ur married just because people dont work on marriages 2 save them like they used 2 & its 1 of the down sides of attitudes 2wards marriage now.I think u should discuss it with ur partner b4 marriage so that its not a potential issue,u both know that u may have 2 teach each other wot u like coz uv saved urself & hav no experience & the learning could b a lot of fun 4 both of u.Life partners should talk about evrything from the begining & create a more trusting,confiding,open(talking wise) relationship.

Answer 3

I'm for it. Premarital sex, I mean. Sex is a big component of a relationship. What if you two aren't compatible? This is something you want to know before you tie the knot. Test drive the car, for crying out loud.

And I hate to break it to you, but the infatuation stage of a relationship doesn't last. After you settle into a more loving and deeper love relationship, your sex life most probably will change. It may not be hot-monkey-sex all the time (in fact, most likely it won't be). I think somebody without any sexual experience other than their current partner could become very frustrated if they are not mature enough to understand or see this as part of the deeper loving bond that a couple has. In other words, you might start feeling regret that you didn't have other partners prior to your wife.

Answer 4

If that's what you want, then it's perfectly okay. But let me throw this at you and see what you think, since you believe in being sensible.... if you find the girl you want to marry and you're with her for a really long time. You get to know her really well and you both love each other like crazy and plan on getting married. Well, in a marriage, sex plays a huge role. What if you get married to this girl and she sucks in bed? You'll like sex a lot anyway, but if she's not good at it, then your whole marriage might not work out really well. Two of the main causes of marital problems are money and sex. Just something to think about. It might not be a huge concern for you, but I think some people would like to know what their sex life will be like for the rest of their lives.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with waiting for the right scenario. On the other hand, I was very promiscuous in my 20s, gained loads of sexual, emotional and social experience and didn't regret a minute of it. I also didn't catch anything as I was "sensible" about things.
Experience is a good thing, but so is doing things in your own way. Good on you!

Answer 6

Ok, as I have said before,
In todays society it seems unnatural for people to wait before having sex, especially since everybody is in such a hurry to grow up. A lot of people look at commiting that first sex act as something that everyone is doing so they should too, chances are they usually end up regretting it and wishing they had waited. Me, I'm waiting, and I say to hell with society thinking I'm abnormal, nobody has to live my life but me. Sex for a lot of people is meaningless but for a select few, giving yourself in that ultimate act to the person you love and who loves you back is something that will be treasured for the rest of your life. And there is NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.

Answer 7

NO there certainly is nothing wrong with you for wanting to wait. it just means that when it does happen it will be extra special, the way your first time should be. as for you asking is it worth it. well that's an individual opinion and you should not ask anyone this as you could end up making the wrong one.
i think you should decide this on your own. and i really hope that you make the right one.
good luck.

Answer 8

I don't beleive in sex before marriage because im not married and im not a virgin - but all respect to u if u want to wait until your married. There is so many STD's and people that are only ofter one thing out there, so i hope u find the one!

Answer 9

i think if u want to do this, then that is fine. i never really thought of doing this before i had sex for the 1st time.
just be careful because someone i know has done this, they waited until marriage and then it turned out that he began to sort of resent his wife because she had already had sexual experiences and he felt he had missed out, and now couldn't go back to experience more because he was now married.
this wouldn't be a nice thing to happen and would most likely cause relationship problems for you if you do end up to feel this way.
however, if you think that this wouldn't happen to you, you know your personality, then i say go for it because it is quite a sensible thing to do.
in my opinion, do it when the time feels right, don't hold out if you don't really want to.

Answer 10

I am w/ u on tha one 100% I mean whats the point of having sex before u meet the right Person....Their is nothing wrong w/ it don't worry,



Ur more Speical a Safer if you wait

Answer 11

I think it's way awesome that a guy would want to wait. I wish I would have waited, and from my experience now I think it is worth it in the end to wait.