urgent ppl come on??????????

Question

i love my bf t is just he wants to have sex and i dont
i tried to do it but i couldnt and i told him i dunna why i cant
he always talks about it and pushes me to and i once felt like he is going to hit me but i started cryin so he stopped
and i keep cryng for hours cuz i dont want to lose him i love him so much
we r together since 1 year
and plz nobody tells me to leave him cuz i cant and i know he cant leave too
and i could see that

Answer 1

If you're scared that he's gonna hit you, then why do you want to stay with him? You can say you love him and all that, but if you're scared of him, you don't love him. You're just infatuated with him. He doesn't love you, either. If he did, he would never hit you or even think about it at all. He wouldn't pressure you into having sex if he loved you either. Seriously, wake up, dump him, and move on. And definitely don't have sex with him just because he threatens to hit you. Get out of the relationship before he actually does. I know it's not what you wanted to hear, but somebody has to tell you.

Answer 2

A year is a loooong time for a guy to wait for sex. He must really love you, and you're both probably very frustrated. You should try to take a good hard look at yourself and find out why you don't want to or can't have sex with him. There's got to be something going on there that can make some sense of that.

Answer 3

to me, in a relationship you can't deny your partners physical needs. i think that it would be selfish. on the other hand your bf should understand that it is something that your not comfortable with for some reason, and he should be less persistent. if he's any guy like i know he'll want it at least 6 times a week...forget about football sunday. i think that a fair compromise is 1-2 times/week. also if your having problems right now, you should maybe see your doctor who could find a specalist. i'm not sure of your age, if i knew i could add a few more comments

Answer 4

Well, then he must take you serious, it is obvious you are not ready and nobody should force you into something you're not ready for. Set him straight on the subject and don't let it get to the point where he might want to hit you again.

Makes me wander how much he really cares about you if he would even consider striking you. Be careful.

Answer 5

honey,i am not for sure your age,but you sound very outta touch.you sound young and so in experienced just by your questions and response.you sound as if you are afraid of him cause if it feels like you are gonna be hit by him then,leave him the hell alone.and also if you don't want to have sex then flat out tell him no!and threaten to tell him if he keeps pressuring you then you two are though.wait on his response if he gets loud or violent than leave him alone.look i know you are young due to the fact you do not have enough life experience to know that that fool does not love you or care for you.and you have dependency issues as well to say talk to a older sister or a older friend.

Answer 6

well since people are differant all over and usualy no two people are exactly alike nothing i can say can help. Its all relitive, depending on the person.....you know this guy, you should be able to come to a better conclusion on what to do with him than strangers over the internet...its ok to ask for help but a few lines of pseudo-info cant tell a person enough data to even make an educated guess.......soo, i guess my answer for you is to figure it out by yourself.....figuring something out for yourself is more rewarding then getting a "quick fix" answer.

Answer 7

You can be dumb and not leave him . But I am telling you from the voice of experience...

ANYONE who tries to force you to have sex, berates you or abuses you IS NOT IN LOVE with you.
This person has a problem bigger then both of you and needs counseling . He needs you to "feed off of" and it will only get worse with a person like this. He needs to be in control and to control you in order to feel good about himself.
I know you are young and think you can't live without him but I urge you to break this off .

Tell your parents or teacher if this person becomes to much for you to handle.

I was in your same situation when I was 15 -16 it's not easy but you will thank yourself later.

Answer 8

do not have sex until you are comfortable with it. when the time is right you will be able.I know you said that u didnt want anyone to say to leave him and i don't think u have to so long as he understands that you will only have sex with him when you are ready. The fact that you felt like he was going to hit u is a bit scary and if you ever feel like that again you really should leave him. its just not worth being in a relationship like that. u may love him but the fact that he keeps pushing you to have sex with him doesn't say much about him.. be careful hunny!

Answer 9

Then you're just stuck aren't you? You are choosing to stay with someone who isn't a good match so just suck it up and hold out until he tires of the rejection and he'll either leave you or hurt you.

OR you can do what you know you should do (or you wouldn't have mentioned it) and move on...yes you CAN leave him, you choose not to...but you are keeping yourself in an uncomfortable and potentially abuse situation...

...don't be a fool...you two are not a good match...move on so you can each be with people who are more suitable...

Answer 10

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