I have a lot of men hit on me and tell me I'm attractive and sexy and they want to go out with me, but they never want to be my boyfriend (unless they are totally clingly stalker types).
I've been in many situations where men have pursued me or shown interest in me (for years), then when I give them a chance all they want is sex and not a relationship with me. One would think that if a guy is after you for years he would want to pursue something more then just sex, (Why put in so much effort for so long?)
So what is wrong with me that I can't get a guy to get beyond the sex part? Am I just attracting the guys who want the chase and then once they've gotten that far they have to move on to someone else?
I'm college educated, have a decent job; pay my own bills, have a great sense of humor; I love video games, I am a bit of a tomboy, but very feminine. I don't ask for anything other then companionship and love, I don't even mind paying for dinner now and again....
2007-01-07 11:46:45 · 20 answers · asked by Quest4questions 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry hon.........men don't think with the head on their shoulders. :-(
2007-01-07 11:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Turtleshell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They're mostly pigs, and liberalism is largely to blame.
They're concerned predominantly with their own selfishness and being irresponsible, instead of being interested in a normal relationship, and exercising concern and caring for the woman. It's a matter of what you can get, more than what you give.
They're really not worth going out with, and men should really have a standard of not having sex at all, before marriage.
Well, I'm one man who thinks like this, but I haven't been able to get a date in years and years. The last one I had was almost 10 years ago.
To be honest, I don't why I come on here to offer this advice, but I am genuinely concerned about other people, including women.
2007-01-07 11:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Joe C 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you have met a few guys that have caught your attention, but are simply not the right guy. Also, I am not sure if this is part of the problem, but you may try to NOT be so sexually attractive. Men can't seem to help themselves if you have VERY NICE attributes (chest or butt) and you have a tendency to keep them on display. Know that dressing for success does not only apply to your career. Make sense? Good luck.
2007-01-07 11:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by curiousJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know you but it appears you come across as too independant. Most guys have the old cavemen feeling inside of them that they need to be provider and protector, therefore like a woman to be somewhat vulnerable. In real life of course, this does not happen but the old basic instincts are there somewhere. Try and tone down your I'm an island stance and maybe the next bloke that comes along won't feel so intimidated. But obviously you're a fox otherwise you wouldn't be pulling blokes in the first place.
2007-01-07 11:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They want a relationship and everything that goes with it including sex.
Of course you have to have chemistry. Most men are spoiled now and very few would carry on a relationship without sex.
I'm glad you have morals. Good luck.
2007-01-07 11:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by roxylee11782 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you give in.
Don't give in. Don't have sex for the first couple of months.
Without knowing it, your brain is putting off signals that you will do it, so the guy picks up on that, gets what he wants and leaves.
Stop having sex and the signals stop and you attract the right ones, instead of the wrong ones.
2007-01-07 11:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by You may be right 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear your personal story. You sound like a good woman. As a result, it seems to me you deserve something better . Maybe you should be more careful in whom you will date in the future. Make wiser decision and select those love you for yourself not to be a sex-machine. Feel free to contact me if you want to talk about this further.
2007-01-07 11:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last part looks like you're posting an advert ;-p
It's just what some of us guys are like. You get some clingy wussies, some who just want an ego boost and others who are looking to move into a relationship, just be more picky.
2007-01-07 11:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are books that you good read like he's just not that into to find out if you are making some mistakes. maybe you should not have sex right away this is an easy way for you to get rid of the men that dont mean well. your dating life will get better just have patience.
2007-01-07 11:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by brandi_schuler 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, when I quit looking for a man..then I met my husband!
You just haven't met the one for you!
Just try to stay busy so you don't worry about it!
You could try Yahoo Singles, to find a guy who has the same interests, so you'd have more of a chance to click!
If you want a real gentleman...Don't pay for any dates!!
2007-01-07 11:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-27 02:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋