i have known this girl for a little over a year and a half. i have strong feeling for her. but, she considers me one of her best friends and already is holding hands with some other guy. i know its too late, that i am already in the "friend zone". but i want to tell her how i feel, but i don't want to end our friendship. someone please give me some advice.
2007-01-07 11:19:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you need to wait until your alone. Then just let her know how you feel but don't come on to strong. Just say "I now that we are best friends and i hope that will always be, but i just wanted to let you know that i also have some strong feelings for you and that if it doesn't ever work out between yo and this other guy i would be more than willing to become more than just good friends. But if not, that is totally cool also, i just thought i would let you know how i feel." you can improvise with that and if you come on soft, then there is no way in the world that your friendship will end. I know it may sound corny but it will work. -trust me
2007-01-07 11:24:43 · answer #1 · answered by Silent.K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I know exactly what u'r going through...trust me If ur friend is really ur friend she won't end ur friendship over u having special feelings for her! Chances are at some point she had them 4 u, u just didn't see them over the "freind" part...And if she does't like u like that it shouldn't be such a big deal Just to ask? u know i told my guy friend that i liked him and i still do but we're not dating and im fine it's been almost 5 months and im starting to get over him so if she doesn't like u don't sweat it she'll come around i garrentee it bro!
2007-01-07 19:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough situation. but the only thing u could do thats gonna be effective is to just tell her. but before u tell her how u feel, tell her that u're only telling her this because it's just too much to hold in, and u don't want this honest conversation to affect ur friendship, or the relationship between her and her guy.
2007-01-07 19:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to tell her! I was in the same situation last week. this girl is my best friend, and i never told her how i felt. because her boyfriend is one of my good friends. but anyway i finally told and i found out that she likes me to. and that when shhe breaks up with him she want to be with me. It's only made the two of us closer. So if she really is your best friend but doesn't feel the same way for you, then she'll still be friends with you.
2007-01-07 19:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by jon j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait awhile. Give her hints but dont make it to much and dont tell her how you feel either. Just be patient and when ever she needs advice give her the honest to God truth and she'll come back for more. Flirt a lil bit also.
2007-01-07 19:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her ("how would you feel if we took our friendship further") before it's too late and finds someone else. If she says she would rather not then except that with no hard feelings and continue to be friends and find someone who would love to be your girlfriend.
2007-01-07 19:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel. would you rather have her as a friend, or more than that? think about if you want to hear her complain about her boyfriend too you, or how sweet he is.
in my opinion, guys and girls can't be friends. if you're open enough to deal with her relationship problems, while you secretly want her for yourself, than good luck. you're bound to be hurt in the long run. save yourself the stress, tell her how you feel, and see what happens with her.
if she says she wants you, cool. if not, keep it movin. there are tons of girls out there that will like you and treat you better than your "friend"
best wishes!
2007-01-07 19:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by robyoung3484 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel, you never know she may feel the same way but she thinks she's in the "friend zone"
2007-01-07 19:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by grand96prix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont' this happen to me and it might really hurt your friendship even though you don't want it to but if it makes you feel better you sould tellher how you feel you never knwo she might feel the same way and the only reason why she is holding hands with the other guy is because she decided that you may never really tell her how you feel
2007-01-07 19:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by so_wats_new_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling her how you really feel can really damage your relationship if she doesn't feel the same way...be a little more patient and try to cope with her dating another guy...this is serious. you have to know whether or not she feels the same way before telling her..when you talk to her, you'll know and feel it if she does like you in return..all the best.
2007-01-07 19:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by shine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋