help me i think i have minor deppression?

Question

I spoke to my fiancee today, to tell him what im feeling inside.
I am very stressed out with my work im off just now with the flu, but i don't want to go back as its not a great job a tall ie the way we get treated, ive been there for 2 years and i don't think it is ever gonna change.
Plus theres alot of things going on with my family right now, my family are all splitting up, i cant trust my sister as she has hurt me, this envolved fraud, my sister put me in alot of debt, using my credit card.
I don't feel like doing anything a tall, i feel like cutting myself off from the world just being me and my fiancee, i know this is wrong but thats how i feel.
Im going to the doctors tommorow to tell them about all this in more detail, i don't want any pills, i feel that i need counciling.
My mum suffers from manic deppression, i don't want to go down the same road.
I want to have a career in mental health nursing eventually as i have looked after my mum, for since i can remember,

Answer 1

as a fellow sufferer of depression, you are doing the right thing in visiting your gp, as the first step in recovering is accepting you have a problem and being willing to help yourself, even though at times it can feel pretty bleak. Counselling should help although if your gp reccomends tablets there is no shame in taking them, if you had heart problems you would take meds for that, so there really is no difference, and with depression you may only have to take them for a few months to help you over this period. You have to be strong and i am pleased you feel able to confide in your boyfriend as you need plenty of support, remember you can always ask questions on here if you want you could keep in touch with me just let me know.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are going through a pretty tough time and have come to a point and perhaps you feel that by cutting yourself off from everything, you would stop feeling so bad. I think you are quite sensible to resist that feeling, as cutting all ties only makes things build and fester - it doesn't completely deal with the issues.

Looking at what you've been going through, I think it is fair to say that it has not been an easy ride - to be deceived so seriously by flesh and blood must hurt very badly, as well as seeing your family split up. I remember when my family split up. It was a very difficult time, and it's only now, 5 years on, that my parents are talking to each other. Hopefully it won't be that long for you, in fact I am sure it won't be.

Try not to worry (easily said, not so easily done!) about manic depression. I think that given the circumstances, your reaction and the way you are feeling now are normal. Counselling should help, sometimes it's good to just vent off all that frustration and anger.

Answer 3

... It depends on what kind of depression you have and what caused it. No matter what, though, I recommend speaking to a therapist who won't push for medication or refer you to a psychologist. Getting lots of rest is also helpful; depression is very draining and it can become even more severe if you don't have the energy to fight it. Also: depression is more than just sadness or an illness. It is more of a mixture of the two. Therefore, it won't just go away like sadness, and it can't just be cured by medication and time like an illness. Depression needs to be cured with time, patience, caring, and careful observance. A good start would be to try to be in the presence of trusted loved ones as much as possible. Treat yourself to things that you love to do/eat/watch. Constantly remind yourself that you're deserving, you're a good person, you are worth so much because you're a human being and because you're the only you in the world. Basically, do everything possible to make yourself happy. Hope this helped in answering your question.

Answer 4

Well...it does sound like you are going through a lot. The changes & issues that you are dealing with are very likely to make you prone to depression. With family history as well, I would say depression is a very large possibilty,.
Medication works very well along with counseling. You may need medication for a brief period of time, to help you make it through. Under a doctors care, you may be able to come off of it once you get to feeling better and your feelings sorted out.
Depression is a real illness, not a character flaw. You can't control it, and it isn't a personality problem. It is very real and can be a lifelong struggle.
I wish you all the best. Take it one day at a time. Tell your doctor your feelings, and be honest. : )

Answer 5

Stress is not depression and you have a seriously stressful life. (Also people get ill when they're stressed -- so the flu is no surprise either.)

Good for you not wanting to take pills, they don't cure anything and have been black-labelled as *causing* suicidal tendencies and violence, definitely not what you need.

What you need is practical help in making your life less stressful and that's not something that's going to happen overnight, or be sorted out on this website.

So, if you want some practical help, get in touch and I'll be able to find a volunteer near you who will be able to genuinely help -- one thing at a time.

Steve

Answer 6

It is so good that u can recognize it this early on and dont have any denial. That is a huge step. It does seem that u r depressed, but maybe its just situational depression because of all thats going on. Definitely tell the doc u dont want meds if u really dont and dont let them give them to u till u r ready. But if you do get some, wellbutrin is very mild with no effects of you discontinueit, unlike effexor, which is as hard to get off of as heroin.
Try to focus on anything good in your life and know that in life, we cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.

I wish u the best of luck

Answer 7

the complete idiot had it right try fish oils and eat oily fish for depression and get rigorous exercise and also try a bit of yoga which will deal with any stress. I say try, i mean do it if you want to cope with this rough patch in your life.

doing these three simple things will either take your mind off your worries for a bit of the day or moreover give you the inner strength and capacity to deal with and sort out the sh#t you are going through at the moment, hope this helps.

Answer 8

You have a lot of problems. And you've recognised them, and want to get help. Thats the first step to feeling better, and if you have your fiancees support, you wont feel this down for long.

you've estalished you hate your job, and want to go into mental health. So when you're feeling better, perhaps after counselling, go to your local college/library, and see about enrolling on a course to help you go into nursing.
One step at a time.

Answer 9

You have far to much stress in your life, you have to remove yourself from that Maybe it means you and your fiancee move away and start a whole new life together. I take a product called Stress Relief Complex that helps me when I am under alot of stress it really helps me and it is a vitamin supplement not a drug.It isn't sold in stores. If you are interested contact me.

Answer 10

Go to the docs chick,as for work they may sign you off until your feeling a bit better,be very carefull what you tell the doctors,i had problems told my doctors,few years later read my doctors notes and they were very cheeky and nasty about my problems,i dont tell my doctor anything now,just be carefull,and i really hope things pick up chick,at least you have your fiancee,take care