I love hanging out with him, but the problem is he does'nt have a car so I have to drive to see him and he lives 40 minutes away. Second problem is he is unemployed right now and I have to bring money for us to chill plus gas money. He wants to hangout everyday! I work everyday and go to school and when I get home I am so tired. How often should I hang out with him? How much is to much?
2007-01-07 11:18:04 · 20 answers · asked by CrazyChic86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you are tired and want to be with someone willing to meet you half way in your relationship. You can't pay for everything, that isn't fair. Also, you have a job and other obligations. Sounds to me he's afraid of losing you because he feels like a loser and is trying to suck up all of your free time so that you don't have a chance to consider meeting someone else. Step back from the situation, and be the bad guy if you have to. If you aren't happy, is it worth it? Besides, maybe backing off a bit will give your honey the motivation he needs to be a conducive partner for you. Don't ever accept less than you put forth in a relationship...its like a business. And when businesses stop making profit, they go out of business. Good luck.
2007-01-07 11:23:32 · answer #1 · answered by Destiny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he at least looking for a job? How long has he been unemployed? If he is in between jobs then you two need to work out a schedule. You need to tell him you can see each other on this night, this night and the rest of the nights you need to yourself to study, rest or whatever.
However, if he is umemployed and not really trying to get a job then you need to cut him loose. I guess it's great hanging out with someone who's working and picking up the tab and saving him the bother of traveling. Must be nice. But if he's any kind of man he wouldn't let you do it all of the time. And you should tell him that.
Hopefully he'll understand but if he doesn't then you need a new boyfriend
2007-01-07 11:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you can't afford to pay to come see him all the time if he isn't capable of getting a job! And you don't wish to see him until he can muster enough responsibility to get a job and a car. How old is he? If he is in high school still, don't push the car issue, but be sure to make him get a job at least. And if he isn't willing to get a job and work on getting a car than he must not want to see you that bad!!!!!
2007-01-07 11:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by jordanred17_89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you, i'd just tell him how you feel. I mean, not in a bad way. Maybe leave out that you have to pay ( i would tell him, but i know alot of people would leave that out )
I think too much is already. Everyday.. wow, that seems out of the question. I would just see him maybe 3-4 times a week. maybe even only the weekends. I wouldn't get too caught up with him. You might mess up on other stuff.
2007-01-07 11:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by xSSxo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just might now be worth it. Tell him to get off his lazy behind and get a job. Who wants an underachiever as a boyfriend, honestly?
Plus, the realationship isn't going to last if he's that clingy. Tell him you need time for yourself too.
twice a week is probably a good suggestion. Not too much time to bug each other, but enough time to talk about each other's week and leave a lingering desire to see each other next time.
2007-01-07 11:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by manthapoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off about the money thing. Maybe he should get a job, and you should mention that to him. He might need to get off his butt and work. You shouldn't be paying for everything. Tell him that you need to take a break, but you still like him and stuff. but just tell him you need a break.
2007-01-07 11:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by peaceoutxcubscout 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already asked this question previously. i'm telling you all signs and indicators factors to controlling and on the verge of starting to be the courting into an abusive one. Get her out of the courting.
2016-11-27 02:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is too much on your pocketbook and study and work time. Tell him you'll see him when you can, but in the meantime, utilize the extra time without you to find a job.
2007-01-07 11:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Newt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, Look if you want me to continue spending time with you and enjoying it, than quite asking to see me so much, I am going to get tired of you if we are together all the time. Give me my space.
2007-01-07 11:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell him your busy with your other boyfriend. or tell him to get off his lazy *** and get a job, money and a car. or just be his slave and stay the way you are
2007-01-07 11:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by takeiteasy830 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋