I am not sure if opposites can be just friends if you find someone that may show some interest or vice versa. Do you think opposites attract or that two people should be the same to make it work? Any suggestions?
2007-01-07 11:17:24 · 21 answers · asked by Sweet Pea 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It really depends, if he is interested in you or not.
2007-01-07 11:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Nanshi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying which goes, "Opposites attract." It is not good for people to be the same in every respect. There should be some variety between the two of them. After all, would you want to like someone who is exactly like you?
2007-01-07 19:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although opposites can and do attract...two people have to have some similar interest, in order to make the relationship work.
For instance, if I like to play tennis in my free time, and the guy I am dating has no interest in tennis but rather, in hanging out at the sports bar to watch the game...at some point, I would get tired of hanging out doing what he wants to do there fore two people go their opposite ways, when it comes to relationships, I want some one that is open to doing what I like to do in my free time. Sooooooooo You both need to have some similar interest ( besides hanging out at the house)
2007-01-07 19:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can be just friends with the opposite sex, but when you're in a relationship there should be some boundaries set. I would never go out alone with a guy friend .... I wouldn't like it if my guy went out alone with a girl who was his friend. I think the rules should be the same for you and your guy.
2007-01-07 19:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm in my experiences both have worked out in some respects. but i think opposites factor is more interesting in that people can have different point of veiws and opinions on stuff and..some people enjoy that and dont like when everythings the same and they agree on everything or go to the same places etc.
i personally enjoy it more when your kinda forced to try new things or meet new people...thats what those kinda relationships did for me
had 2 like that, loved'em
2007-01-07 19:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my opposite now, never agree but love him much! Been married for four years together 14. Tried dating someone like me but he irritated me because I knew me and hated what I may do to myself.
2007-01-07 19:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard arguments in both directions. A woman posting last night I chatted with about the living hell of living with her opposite.
I have noted in myself even like with my ex. I was really attracted to her for simplicity, her berevity of speach, her capacity to sleep so long and comfortably and look so cute. It filled me with purpose like I was defender, provider, it was a huge, ego/bravado thing, but it fell apart when she also defered preference on some major issues we had, and sadly let her family push her around when I had conflicting interests with them. Never really speaking her mind, I had to let her go eventually. Whereas she was ultimately comfortable with herself and nothing ever seemed to bother her, she was still sensitive and warm to good things, I being the opposite, kinda fussy, but about big things, scattered and persuing the whole world minute by minute, never comfortable with myself, never ready to sleep without exhaustion taking me. I utterly admired her for her traits and aspired after and utterly adored her. I did not realize this until after we were apart, but yes, in my case opposites definately attract.
Unfortunately the dynamics of the situation is what drove us apart as I found I didnt trust her much for not doing enough cognitive decision making, not standing for anything really and not making any decisions. I wanted to marry her deep down but I was skeptical about the way she wanted things and trying to figure out what was exactly the right thing to do for her etc, became a laborious chore after a while.
My advise is you should enjoy your forays with opposites, but strain to notice when that is what the attraction is about, try to steer towards someone you actually relate to in manners rather than projectively relate to. Its tough to differentiate this, but I think you will be much happier with someone you are on the same sheet of music with and someone with the same tempo about things.
2007-01-07 19:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do think that opposites attract but can never have a successful relationship....if they are complately different.....
as for friends with the opposite sex...its possible to have one without feelings for them that way...it does come and go though...
2007-01-07 19:20:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both... It always works out the way it works out... Sometimes opposites attract... and sometimes they just get stuck together...
2007-01-07 19:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think opposites attract, if you like someone and they like you then things normally work out.............
2007-01-07 19:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by melark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have someone that is nothing like you its better. You are strong where he is weak.. He is strong where you are weak. You guys can balance each other out.. Works like a charm..
2007-01-07 19:21:24 · answer #11 · answered by ksk_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋