do you guys spank your kids and cn you tell a story when you gave them?

Question

a spanking and it was emotional but it worked right away? my girl was misbehaving all week and im a firm believer in spanking my kids over my knee bare bottom with my hand but i never go overboard so i gave her so many warnings she never obeyed me she was flat out disrespectful and she's in the 1st grade so i decided enough is enough i gave her a long talk about respect and pulled her pants and underwear down and gave her 5 swats on the butt what do you do when you spank and has any of you spanked your kid in public or in front of your friends please only parents thank you

Answer 1

I don't think what you did was wrong. I might adjust things a bit. For example, I'd have a system in place like my 3 strikes rule (1. warning, 2. time out. 3. spanking) so they know the direction they are headed. It gives them to correct their behavior before you have to. It also allows for you to be more calm, by just following you chart rather then acting on emotion. Spankings given in emotion can lead to abuse.

As for the spanking, their is nothing wrong with the pants down thing, that is the only way we do them. It's old fashioned and it works. I don't agree with the person who says you stripped her of all her self respect by pulling down her pants. Ya maybe if she was like 16 you would have, but no way at 6. I can attest that getting a "bare bottom" spanking by my dad at the age of 12 didn't embarrass me in the slightest, I was way more worried about the punishment ahead (which was a painful bottom). That's what a spanking is, simply a punishment. I think people put way to much though into them.

Answer 2

Yes, I grew up on private land. I had my parents, uncles, aunts, and grandparents all sharing this land, which ment we all lived pretty close. If you did something wrong, the closest adult to wherever you were at the time, would pick up the first good object they saw, and beat the crap out of you. We got a lot of spankings when I was a kid. There was no such thing as soap in your mouth. Whoever heard you say a "bad word" would pull your pants down, grab a board and start spanking your little butt. But we lived through it. It didnt even have any real damaging effects now that im older. All this crap about not being able to whoop your kids now, makes me sick. Thats why kids are so bad now.

Answer 3

I don't spank. I'm not a crazy fanatic, I've just found other ways of disciplining to be much more effective. In your situation, here's what I would have tried. I'd tell her specifically what she's doing that's misbehaving (no talking back, no hitting people, etc). Then, I'd apply a consequence to the behavior. This has to be something that is meaningful to her (time-out for 6 minutes, take a toy away, no television, no dessert, etc). I'd also reward her for behaving. At this age a chart can work wonders. Write down a couple behaviors you'd like to see and when she does it, give her a star. When she earns enough stars, give her a reward (go out for ice cream, rent a movie, play a game, go to the skating rink -whatever she loves). Make sure it's attainable in a short amount of time, then as the behaviors improve, more stars for rewards. By the way, never erase stars she's earned. I hope that helps. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Yes, I do spank my children. I believe that spanking, when used properly, is an effective and loving disciplinary method. I always spank in private, I do not believe in spanking a child in public or even in front of siblings. My son just got a spanking this morning. He is 3 years old. He had been testing my paitence all morning. I warned him that if he didn't straighten up he would be getting a spanking. He decided to push his luck, so I took him to his bedroom and gave him a bare-bottom over-the-lap hand-spanking.

Answer 5

yes i spank my son on the bottom i am a believer in spanking because if u dont they will walk all over u they need to know u are the parent and they are the child. yes i spanked my son in public i dont care if other people dont approve but i raise him not the other people. i spanked my son at wal-mart because i told him he couldn't have what he wanted and he threw a tantrum holering and fell out on the floor kicking and screming i told him to get up he didn't listen got even louder so i spanked him he was fine after that. another time he plugged the iron up turned it on and layed it on the floor burnt the carpet i torn his little behind up now he wont touch a iron.

Answer 6

I can not condone spanking a child, but I would not say never do it. By your story, I can tell you were angry when you gave the spanking, but do you also tell your child not to hit when she is angry? It sets a double standard and can confuse the child. I have given spankings in the past but I do not any more. I was a mom at the age of 16, I grew up in an abusive home where I was beaten. I never thought spanking was bad until I got older and began to philosophize more. We simply can not teach our children not to hit others then hit them in return. There are other alternatives such as removal of privileges, time outs, etc. The worst thing I can do to my 9 year old son is to send him to his room and not talk to him for a while. He can not stand it when I wont talk to him.

Answer 7

I just wanted to point out the interesting twist in your logic. You gave your daughter 'a long talk on respect' and stripped her of her self-respect by stripping her and spanking her bare bottom. What could be more humiliating.
I'm afraid all you taught your daughter was 'Might makes right'. I pray that your daughter doesn't grow up to be the playground bully, or an abused wife who thinks she 'deserves' the abuse because she grew up with a mama who always told her as she smacked her "I'm doing this for your own good. It hurts me more than it hurts you!"

Answer 8

tell them why,no I never hit my kids in pblic or in front of anyone. Why do you have to take her pants down and spank her bare bottom?