My male friend who is 26 years old gets into fights all the time and seems to have severe anger issues. Also drinks and loses friends easily...what is his problem (besides being a jerk?)
2007-01-07 10:45:12 · 8 answers · asked by Bo B 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
he has anger issues and a alcohol problem
2007-01-07 11:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, is he the one that usually kicks butt? Fact is, it is likening to the old west days, kind of like a gun slinger. Everyone who knows a person can kick a s s is going to try to challenge them to fight to see if they can win. I believe the medical term for it is Intermittant Explosive Disorder that causes them to lose their temper. It is hereditary and environmentally based. Us older folks always termed this type of behavior as temper tantrums but todays studies find that it is not just a hot temper. Some of us are more agressive or angered much easier than others. Did you know that adrenaline plays a huge part in people's termpers? Adrenaline is your body's way of protecting itself when something isn't right. If there is an underlying medical condition one may know or not know about, the body will produce more adrenaline than normal as a protective shield. That adrenaline can cause you to jump at the littlest thing. You're always on the standby to jump, whatever the situation may be and that includes confrontational situations. Your friend could have a medical condition that is causing his adrenal glands to go into overload, thereby causing temper tantrums and fighting. He needs to get to the doctor to figure out why he is so agitated. I have read up on this and i don't know which book it was in, I have read so many...It may have nothing to do with his childhood, only his physical health. Good luck and you are a good friend for caring so much. :)
2007-01-07 19:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He definately does have a problem! These traits come along with various types of disorders, so it's really hard to say for sure. Diagnoses all depends on the reason WHY he is doing what he is doing. Does he drink because he feels sadness, or just plain invicible, ect. If you know what I mean? Also, what exactly is it that he does to lose friends? Are they just plain sick of his attitude towards everyone or does he actually do wrong towards them? He may be this "jerk" on the outside because he may feel like all is lost. He may feel nothing matters anymore. He may be so used to having friends abandom him that he is now actually pushing his friends away because he might be telling himself "well they're are just gonna leave anyway". All in all, he may even just be a flat out jerk, and enjoy being one. It all depends on his underlying problem. Ya know? I suggest convincing him to see a psychiatrist. If he doesn't want to speak to a stranger, see if he'll give you some insight, then try researching various disorders, and then do a comparison. Hope this helps!
2007-01-07 19:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a normal and healthy human emotion. However, when out of control it is destructive and an obstacle to personal and career success.
If one gets angry at the smallest provocation, it can be described as a ‘critical flaw’. This flaw exists because there is a justification present in one’s mind to do so, which may be called as ‘a lie’ and this lie is responsible to keep anger alive. The lie may be:
a. It is/was the need of the time, if not told in anger things will never improve.
b. My anger is right, the other person deserves it.
c. Anger is not under my control.
1. The first step of anger management is to identify one's own ‘critical flaw’, e.g. “I am always angry” or “I am impatient”. Verbalise it and accept it.
Now identify the opposite of your critical flaw, e.g. “I am always peaceful” or “I am patient”. Repeat it regularly in your mind. You may think “How can I control anger?” To this repeat to yourself “I will control my anger”. The next thought may be “I will get disturbed”. Suggest to yourself repeatedly “I will be un-affected”. Repeat again, “I am peaceful”.
2. When one gets angry the process may be called as ‘a compulsion’ (since it is out of control) and does not have ‘a choice’.
Spend a week in extreme anger. The next week spend it in other extreme, i.e. submissiveness. This technique trains you to have ‘choice’ or have ‘balance’.
3. Pattern Interruption Techniques:
Select some music mismatched to your critical flaw. Visualise with closed eyes, any situation/incident of anger, of the past. Go into relaxation. Visualise the whole incidence like a movie while the mismatched music is on. After some time put off the music and keep on visualising the ‘critical flaw’ scene. How funny?
Now once again go into relaxation. Visualise your critical flaw and all the results of it - humiliation, regrets, guilt, distress, depression, etc. caused by anger. Possibility is you may not get angry.
2007-01-07 18:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should go to Anger Management
2007-01-07 18:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Little Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Bo B, It sounds like he is a drunk :( suggest aa meetings and don't forget anger management classes.
2007-01-07 19:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by droopycauks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little like me, did he have a rough child hood? if so that would be the reason, ask him to go to counseling with you, (say that you're going, and ask if he'd go to keep you company) thats if you are really good friends with him, if you aren't that good of friends with him, don't worry about it
2007-01-07 18:48:22 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rough childhood, alcoholic?
2007-01-07 18:54:02 · answer #8 · answered by Kittyintx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋