I was discussing sex and relationships last night with my flatmate and she was shocked when i told her my boyfriend has never gone down on me in the 10 months we've been together.
Is this unusual? Am i missing out?
I would like him to return th favour once in a while but i don't want to pressure him into doing something he's not comfortable with. I feel i make a lot of sacrifices and do things for him that i don't enjoy though, because i love him and i want him to be happy.
2007-01-07 10:26:44 · 25 answers · asked by merihell75 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have asked him in the past but he flat out refused so i just dropped it.
2007-01-07 10:30:58 · update #1
And just so i don't get anymore people assuming i'm a bit fishy, i can assure you i'm very hygienic. I even shave because he likes it.
I'm thinking now that he must of had a bad experience with another girl because he told has never even given it a thought with me. He just doesn't seem to enjoy doing it.
2007-01-07 22:58:51 · update #2
The big thing is knowing why he hasn't. Have you let him know you want it? Oral is great. It appears you give it to him. Here's a thought, move around why you are doing him and open up for him to do you. Can't imagine he wouldn't.
If that doesn't work, talk about it with him. Say it's your fantasy. Say you want him to do it.
2007-01-07 10:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by Robbie trd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a shower together - not a big heavy session but more as a fun thing. He may be nervous of starting something that he won't be able to finish but if you are messing around in water, well, it all takes on a different tone! I believe melted chocolate placed on strategic points (on both of you) is also a good ploy. The thing is, you need to keep it light and playful and if he wants to explore tentatively, that's ok. If he wants to keep it going a bit longer, even better. Just don't box him in - let him feel he can come up for air, so to speak, whenever he wants!
2007-01-07 19:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats too bad. He may of had a bad expierience sometime or another. You didn't include any ages which makes a difference. Does he drink? Try getting him to do it while he is drunk, and maybe lure him in with some whipped cream or something. Your definitly missing out, I myself, is the first thing I do, and do it well. He is also missing out cause the feeling of satisfying your partner in that way is a good feeling. I take it your nice and trimmed up with no bad smells then your both missing out on something to me anyway that is real important !! Good Luck !
2007-01-07 19:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to have an open relationship.
By that i mean that you should be able to discuss ANYTHING with your boyfriend.
As one of the other answers puts it 'is he mad?'
I personally go down on my wife fairly regularly and I absolutely love it (and so does she!).
You are most definately missing out at least going by my wifes reaction!
Talk to him. He might not like it (strange man), he may not even realise you want to try it.
Either way TALK TO HIM once its out in the open then you can work it out or kick him out and find a better man who will do it as much as you want!
By the way my address is 23.....
he he he
2007-01-07 18:35:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're definately missing out on some serious pleasure.
A 69 should solve the problem - let him try and NOT lick you in that position.
Or sit on his chest and slowly move up . . . tie him to the bed if necessary !.
Seriously though, talk to him, you need to get it sorted.
2007-01-07 18:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by april 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might have had a bad experience where the person he was with was may not have been as clean as they should have been or he does not want to as usual you were discussing sex you have identified a weak point i hope he does not find out you where discussing him or even you have mentioned this to your Friend ego is a big thing
2007-01-07 18:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me that is one of my favorite spots to be and I can spend some quality time there. Many like it and many don't and it goes both ways. But if thats what you want, then next time, try a 69, or try and give him the body language you want him to go down there and see if it works. Maybe he might want to, but does not know what you really want???
2007-01-07 18:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is selfish!He should atleast try it b4 not liking it!He should return the fav,and there are ways to spice it up try body chocolate to terminate the taste,so there he doesnt have a reason..
2007-01-08 09:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Cassý 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY UNUSUAL.There is only 1 week out of the month that I refuse to.That is the best thing next to sex that I can think of.I would quit doing oral on him & see how he likes it.Tell him to return the PLEASURE OR MOVE ON!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-07 19:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
sorry ive no answer for that, been a man myself and tru experience every man luvs to go dwn on a woman n a wel groomed 1 at that, keep tryn ,GUD LUCK
2007-01-11 13:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋