The guy i love hasnt called or txt since his problems with his daughter. I've backed off and given him space. He mentioned at the xmas work meal that she is moving out the 10th so i'm hoping he contacts me around then so we can meet. If he doesnt then i want an explanation,but do you think i've done good by not contacting him so far and do you think he's wondering why i havent?
2007-01-07 10:24:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea I think you've done the right thing. Give him space to work out his stuff with the daughter. and I think that if by the 15th you havn't heard from him then yes call talk at work something.
2007-01-07 10:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if he had a problem to work out, he needed time to think it through. You could just casually call one day when you know he isn't busy and ask if everything is all right. Tell him you were concerned about his problem and ask if there is anything you can do to help. If he says "no", just give him some more time. BUT end the conversation with something like "O.K., I just wanted you to know I'm here if you need me and I'll keep in touch"
Don't keep him hanging on the phone more than a few minutes. Just be short, sweet and to the point. he'll know you care and will appreciate the interest in trying to help(even though you know you can't).
2007-01-07 18:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it shows you have patience and your not desperate. You may not be rewarded by it so take the time to reward yourself. A suggestion; Make sure your still living a life of your own because he is!! Being supportive can mean just backing off but not expecting an award. You must be good to yourself and if he is not ready to commit you cannot be his ego-boost! Its not healthy for you! I suggest just making sure your arms are open to anyone or anything that comes your way and to get rid of any feelings of obligation! He may or not may. You know what I mean? Take care of those angel wings so you can still fly when you need to!
2007-01-07 18:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by renew69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been very strong, but more than anything, I'm wondering why he hasn't called you. Regardless of how tough things are, you always contact the one you love.
2007-01-07 18:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by california girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would give him a call or text just to let him know your concerned and that you havent run a mile. casually inquire how things are is he okay have they worked things out sympathise a little but not too much, tell him to give you a call when he gets his head together
2007-01-07 18:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by alroka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I would not contact him at all. If he cheated on her with you what makes you think he won't cheat on you? And with a child involved they will always be something. I would just move on. Believe me I know it will be hard, I have been there, but you will be glad you did.
2007-01-07 18:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I recommend waiting until the 15th. If he is ready to contact you, he will. It's his move.
2007-01-07 18:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact him atleast once every week, make sure he didnt forget you.
2007-01-07 18:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by Glowie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, give him his space
2007-01-07 18:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes what you do don't act helpless
2007-01-07 18:25:39 · answer #10 · answered by sweety84pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋