My ex-wife is of the opinion that she should have two "homes" rather than "home" and "mommy's house." I'm of the opinion that a child should have one place to call home . . . that it provides an anchor, a sense of stability. Who's right here? I don't want to take anything from my ex, and I want to be sure I'm not being selfish here, but I really feel like my daughter's interests are best served by having one place to call "home."
2007-01-07 10:23:41 · 16 answers · asked by kevinb671 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ALWAYS!
2007-01-07 10:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important consideration is, of course, your daughter. Unless there are serious issues with your ex-wife's parenting, knowing that both of her parents love her and provide a stable home for her is invaluable for your daughter. I don't know your custody arrangement, but of course that would enter into consideration as well. If your daughter lives with you full-time and only visits her mother's house occasionally, calling your place "home" seems entirely appropriate.
2007-01-07 18:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by SMARTALEXIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should be able to consider both places home and a safe haven.Do not try create barriers between your ex and you over semantics. You should both foster a loving atmosphere for your daughter wherever she is at the time.Don't feel threatened if your daughter considers both places as home it probably means she is happy and feels loved.
2007-01-07 19:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 6, she's old enough to make the determination herself, and it will happen naturally. Whatever happens, don't allow yourself or your ex to make her feel guilty about whatever choice she makes, even in a situation as simple as this. My parents played that game with me after their divorce--everything was dad's or mom's never mine.
Just focus on making sure she knows she's loved, which it sounds like you're already doing, and the rest will come.
Be well.
2007-01-07 18:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the kid call each house what she wishs to.
It is best to let the child have a choice in what she calls her home. In truth she will call each home when she is with the parent that lives in the house.
2007-01-07 18:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can explain to her that both places are home and it isn't necessary to say Mommy's or Daddy's house to either, just to say home.
Great job on being a great Dad!!
2007-01-07 18:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by tdc923 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Home is where your heart is. and her heart would be with both her parents. If she feels loved and safe at either locations then both places can be her home without any conflict or complications.
Children are not always bound by the rules adults put on themselves. Just let her be.
2007-01-07 18:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by darklydrawl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Allow your daughter to decide how she words it.Don't try to set a MUST say tittle on it, that will only stress her out and make it more confusing and complicated.
I'm divorced as well.And when my children are with me they say...home....and when they are with dad...they say home.
If they are with me and we are out shopping and they get tired...they say mommy i want to go home...meaning my house.And if they are with me and want to visit their dad..they say mommy i want to go to daddys house.And vice versa.
There is always daddy's house and mommy's house though.Otherwise...how the hell would you know which "home" she was talking about?lol
Imagine your daughter at a babysitter's home...and she says...i want to go home, so the babysitter brings her to your house and your daughter starts crying....NO I MEAN MY OTHER HOME! WAHH. lol how was the babysitter suposed to know this w/o giving each home a tittle...think about it.Tell your ex to get a reality and check and think about it as well. she's silly and taking things way too personal and to the extreme.
You 2 must be newly devorced.
2007-01-07 18:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by tess_dawaters 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if she lives with u all the time u want her to have a place she can call home
2007-01-07 18:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughters call our house "home" and their dads place, "daddies house" I didn't facilitate either one, they did this separation of terms on their own. They live with me and visit Dad every once in awhile, when he decides he wants them around. I agree simply because my kids naturally veered towards wanting a stable "home." Let your child do what comes naturally to her.
2007-01-07 18:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right she needs one place to call her home for stability and you are a real Man. your daughter is very fortunate to have a father like you.
2007-01-07 18:40:17 · answer #11 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋