my boyfriend was supposed to see me last night, instead he decided to sleep and not tell me until 1. i want him to care about me, if he was so bored as to fall asleep instead of coming out and seeing me, is that a problem? do i have a right to be mad, i was pissed off last night and now im not as mad as i was, he knows that if he asks me to go anywhere i would, when i ask him he makes excuses and tells me that he might be able to come out. we have been going out for 5 months. are we just getting sick of each other??
2007-01-07 10:14:13 · 32 answers · asked by gigi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Commuication is vital in a relationship. Talk to him, and you both may be able to come to an agreement that will make you both happy. Sometimes we just get lazy, and just aren't thinking. Give him the benifet of the doubt, and soon your feelings about the matter will be more clear after you think about it awhile. Good luck! :) Arum
2007-01-07 10:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by arum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off, you do have "somewhat" of a right to be mad... secondly, there may be other circumstances as to why he went to sleep and didn't come over. How old is he? does he have a hard stressful job? has he been working extra hours?
You have to look at things like this... if he doesn't work, then he is just lazy.
I think you need to "ask" him (which may or may not accomplish anything because guys don't always talk) why he tells you one thing and does the opposite.
He either likes you or he doesn't, there is no middle of the road. He is either going to give to the relationship or he needs to let you end it. No use in both of you being unhappy.
2007-01-07 10:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by brown eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he's the only one who is "tired" of you. If you must see him every night, maybe he actually is tired. We humans need sleep you know. We also need our "space" sometimes and too much of a good thing can get boring, no matter what it is.
Ask him if he is bored with you or just needs some space or wants to do something different for a change. (Don't know what you 2 do, but it may be what is boring him if this is the case) AND, don't get pissed off for such little things. That is a turnoff too in itself. No one wants to be controlled.
2007-01-07 10:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be taking you for granted now. Yes, you should be upset, as you could have done something else. He is very inconsiderate. If he wanted to be with you and he was tired, he could have set the alarm clock to get up in time to see you.
When you ask him out and he says he MIGHT be able to go.....tell him you need a definite answer so you can make other plans if he can't go out.
2007-01-07 10:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, he made that choice. he can't blame it on anything, even if he was tired, he could have called. not calling was just rude. yea, u can be made. that's not an ok thing for someone who cares about u 2 do, and from the sound of it, he does this often. he is making excuses and being unable to commit, that should mean something. if u love him, stay with him, but ur relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere. so i would suggest that u part ways. there are so many guys out there, and i bet a lot of them would love u, and would treat u nicely. say: adios to your boyfriend who doesn't care. its his loss, not yours!
2007-01-07 10:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just playing games with you. I don't think you should be mad about him if he went to sleep because he might've really been tired. BUT If he's always making excuses not to hangout with you then maybe you should step back...like BACK-BACK. Let him call you and make plans with you make him wonder why you haven't called or what you're doing. He's used to you being "needy" and I'm not saying that's a bad thing but he's used to you, you're probably predictable and he knows that you like being around him...but now you have to find out how much he likes being around you.
2007-01-07 10:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Nik Nak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and dump him. Are the two of you just getting sick of each other? I doubt it. Maybe he's getting sick of you, or even cheating on you, but I think you're just mad and clueless. If guy doesn't tell, a girl doesn't know. Not for sure, anyway. So, go ahead, move on to someone better, and more reliable!
2007-01-07 10:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after 5 months of being together you should ask your self a question and be honest in your answwer. Do you think he is backing off or was this a one time thing?
If it happens often cut him loose. It will only get worse as the relationship goes on. I speak from experience. If it is a one time thing get over it and get on with you relationship.
In any relationship choose your battles. Don' t make a big deal over small stuff. But if the small stuff gets bigger, cut your loses.
2007-01-07 10:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by lil deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just laid down without intending to fall asleep. People get tired and need sleep. It is no indication of how much he does or does not want to be with you. Give him a break and ask him, next time to call you if he feels that tired so you won't be waiting on him wondering.
2007-01-07 10:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have another girl? If not, sounds like he puts your
relationship with him on a more casual basis than you do. Lighten up, go out, have fun, and let him wonder about what you're doing. Never sit around and wait for a guy or anyone else. Practice the half hour rule. If they're more than half an hour late, go out without them.
2007-01-07 10:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by karonj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋